He's obsessed with sex and I could care less....
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|Tue, 02-07-2012 - 4:58am|
I am not an affectionate person. I mean, I like holding hands and a kiss here and there, but I have NEVER been the type of person who just has to jump someones bones because I need to. Because I never need to. I could care less if I have sex at all.
My fiance is obsessed with sex and all things sex-related. I've tried to talk to him about our ML but he insists that I don't try hard enough. I work night shift forty hours a week and go to college full-time... I'm sorry if I don't feel like coming home and blowing you. I get racy text messages when Im at work, when I'm in class, and then I just get annoyed.
Today i found porn video after porn video on his computer... probably at least 30 different videos from websites. Then I stumbled upon PERSONAL videos of him with other girls... two of him and his ex and then one of me! I never consented to being videotaped during any time we've had sex, and the fact that he did it without me knowing makes me sick. I asked him about it and he said he did it because "I knew you would say no".... that's right, because anytime he has asked me before I have ALWAYS said no. I just don't feel comfortable being videotaped. Although come to think of it, maybe I should because then I could get my own reality show like Kim Kardashian...
Anywhoo, its not the porn that bothers me. I mean, it does bother me but at this point I feel like I have to pick my battles. The videos of other girls, the pictures of other girls going down on him, the secret video of ME is what I am upset about. It makes me wonder if these other girls knew they were being taped.
He threw a HUGE fit last summer over pictures I had on my computer of my ex and I in Cancun, the only pictures I have from the trip because I lost my camera. He demanded I delete them and any other pictures of any exs that I had, and go through my hope chest and throw away anything that had to do with any of my previous relationships.... Yet he has SEX TAPES of his ex-girlfriend on his computer that he happened to "forget" he had.
I have no idea what to do. I feel violated. I feel sick that someone I love and am ENGAGED to be married to has secretly videotaped us having sex.
Any suggestions on what to do about this situation would be greatly appreciated!