I really do love sex...
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|Mon, 08-23-2010 - 11:10pm|
I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We have been going through a dry spell b/c we have not had sex since...I guess the end of July or beginning of August. I am the one who has not been 'feeling it' when we are together. However, I do love sex very much, I think about it all the time, and I want to have a great sex life...but the man I am supposed to be having sex with at the moment doesn't seem to be doing it for me. I am trying to figure out why...
My boyfriend is overweight...so maybe that turns me off...especially since he doesn't even TRY to lose weight. I don't want to be shallow...but when I look at his big belly and chubby cheeks...I can't help but feel disappointed.
I have a seasonal job that recently ended and I became sexually attracted to a co-worker. I began having sexual fantasies about this man...so maybe I am thinking too much about this 'other man' and that is distracting me from my relationship with my boyfriend.
When my boyfriend and I do have sex...it's not like fireworks are going off. However, before the dry spell we had been experimenting with new positions and porn...and it helps.
Bottom line...my boyfriend is such a great man and I want to be with him...and we should be in that stage where we can't keep our hands off each other...and yet I feel like I'm part of an old married couple who have lost their sexuality and need to seek counseling.
I fear that I am not going to get that 'spark' back...I'm not even sure we ever had it, but he is a great match for me b/c he pleases me so well in every other area of our relationship.
Any insight to make me feel better or see things more clearly would be helpful...thanks.