I want sex but my boyfriend doesn't
Find a Conversation
|Sat, 06-25-2011 - 10:04am|
I am 26 years old and live with my boyfriend, 37, with whom I've been together for just over a year. We have a great relationship, affection, support...etc. the only difference is that I want to have sex but he doesn't. He doesn't get turned on half the time when I'm naked or barely dressed. This hasn't happened to us at all before, we've had a great sex life and the frequency was never an issue. Now I'm at a point where I feel like I'm begging him to have sex with me. What's worse is when he tries and he doesn't get hard. I am now afraid to even touch him or make any flirty remarks because he told me before the pressure to perform makes him anxious.
There are mornings when he's not hard at all, or when he tries to masterbate, he can't get it either. But there are some mornings, when he's o.k.
He's gone to a specialist for a check up and after his tests, they said he is low on the "free flowing testosterone". (Whatever that means...).
I've tried talking to him and bringing up all the possible explanations, but he disagrees with each one (e.g. he's not attracted to me anymore, or he'd like to see other people, or cheating...etc.) I've been very open to him, and he's been open to be too. He is also upset about this situation and asked me to support him. I don't know how. He's now taking all these natural substances to enhance his libido/energy.
There are no health problems involved as far as physical stressors: he drinks casualy, non-smoker, very sporty...etc.
I just don't know what to do anymore as many of you know, sexual rejection feels like crap.