I'm trying...hard...

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2002
I'm trying...hard...
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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 9:15pm
I just wanted to say thank you to the wonderful people on this board who YEARS ago recommended I get checked out by my doc due to my change in libido. I wish I had but I didn't...a few years ago I was stressed, cranky and started not wanting sex much at all. Scary, since I used to have a healthy libido. My (now) husband is gone alot, but when he is home I try to make sure we have sex every other day. I realize he is a VERY high libido and although I am working full time and getting my MBA at night, I really do and did try to make sure we have some time for sex. But going to bed at midnight and waking up at 6am doesn't make me feel into it nor into kissing. But the bigger problem from the last few years? I was turning into a RAVING B*TCH. Slowly but surely. To him, my mother, etc. I FINALLY stopped taking the pill after 18 years. I finally feel more me and it has only been a month. When we first starting dating, we used to have sex 3 times a day when we were together. I miss wanting it, wanting him, I miss wanting to kiss him. I am aware of how I have changed every day and I am trying to get back to closer to where we were. He is a great husband, giving lover, I really want us to have a healthy sex life FOREVER. I want a healthy marriage forever. I am trying to feel sexy, to love myself more so I can love him more too. He is patient with me, I don't know how he put up with my AWFUL mean attitude the last few years. I noticed right away changes for the better once I finally stopped taking the pill. My family even noticed I'm "back to myself". I always knew this board was here for me, lurked a bit, just wanted to say thank you for all of you brave enough to talk about it...thank you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2010
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 10:05pm

This is one of the most true, introspective, and brave posts I have seen on this site so far.

Congratulations on using a mirror and being tough on yourself. The pill is definitely an evil libido killer, that's for sure.

I would like to print this thing and hang it on my wall.

Anti.

- Interested in cutting through the BS.
- Interested in cutting through the BS.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2009
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 5:21am

Congratulations, and great to hear you've made some progress.

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Registered: 10-31-2009
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 11:19am