The importance of sex within a marriage

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Registered: 09-16-2004
The importance of sex within a marriage
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Wed, 02-08-2012 - 4:04pm

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 5:59pm
What in the world would lead you to imagine that a couple has to be having sex with any regularity for the LL to well and truly believe that the couple has a "healthy" sex life? Seems to me that "we have sex when I feel like it, and when we have sex I think it is good" would seem to be a very healthy sex life from many an LL's perspective.

Are you suggesting that the health of a couple's sex life depends even to the tiniest degree on whether the HL is happy with their sex life? Are you mad, sir? Why should the LL take into account the ravings of a sex-crazed pervert?

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 04-28-2009
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 6:30pm

Not quite sure where to start.

First, I object to the blanket suggestion that women, not men mind you, use ivillage.com as a source for news. I will allow that some women read articles here but not all and I'm hesitant to characterize the content here as news...but only because I don't want to get kicked out. Otherwise I'd be much more decisive in my definition of news.

Secondly, to the survey, who is going to say sex isn't important to a marriage? My DH would tell you it's important. Doesn't mean it happens all that much. Insurance is important to homeowners but one doesn't want to have to use it. If the survey had asked if sex were the most important thing in a marriage, the results might have come out differently.

Have you read the news release? Men, all you have to do to have more sex with your wife is share loving feelings with her. You're missing your chance because 4 out of 5 women surveyed wanted to have sex last week. And 38% say they and their husbands initiate equally. In case you didn't know. YMMV.

Finally, that's all lovely but what about me and the sisterhood of the LL husbands? Where's our survey? Where are our pointers? I guess I'll have to go elsewhere for my "news."

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 11:08pm

I'm angry that anyone can get away with this kind of hogwash.

This line from the study link had me laughing, though:

...1/3 of married women say they would rather have sex with their spouse than watch a movie, go to a spa, get on Facebook, or chat with friends.

That means that: