Living together killing sex life

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Living together killing sex life
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 10:25am
My boyfriend just moved in about a month ago (we've been together a year). We get along really well and we're generally very happy, but I've noticed that he doesn't seem as interested in sex as before we lived together. If I initiate things, he's OK with it, but he never initiates anymore. We're lucky if we get to it once a week or 10 days. He's been in a couple of past relationships where his partner witheld sex for long periods of time. I've brought my concerns up to him, but he doesn't think this is a problem and thinks I'm worrying too much. I feel like we're more like roommates right now. Is this just a cohabitation adjustment thing?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 12:24pm
Maybe his previous partner rejected him so much that he doesn't have any confidence to initiate anymore. Since he doesn't turn you down when you initiate, perhaps he really wants sex but he expects you to initiate. I don't think you should jump into conclusions yet. Many of us on this board are rejected outright by our partners. That is a much bigger problem. Your partner does not seem to reject you, he simply doesn't initiate. Why don't you discuss openly with your BF about your mutual expectations on how sex should be initiated and who should do the initiating? Such a discussion may open a lot of doors for you.