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|Wed, 08-25-2010 - 12:33pm|
I'm 31, he's 41. We've been married 7 years next Tuesday. I was 24 when we met, and he was my first. I was pregnant with a few months of us dating, and then he wouldn't touch me while pregnant.
We've had sex 2 times in nearly 2 years... once the night before we started couples therapy a few months ago. He has a healthy porn habit, which I would be fine with if I was getting any. I know it's not an erectile dysfunction issue. He admits to having a low libido, but how low is too low? He promised in therapy to work on it, but nothing. I'm in bed every night with erotic romance novels masturbating, while he's downstairs on the computer catching up on work, or reading blogs, or watching a movie. His friends are the ones telling me I'm hot; not him. I can't get him to admit that he's just not into me any longer. It's a great relationship outside of the bedroom. We get along really well, have lots of fun, great jobs, great friends, a great daughter, and a great life. But no sex.
He no longer thinks we need therapy... that we can just work on it ourselves.
At this point, I'm ready to move on, but I feel guilty about hurting him.