love languages question

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love languages question
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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:12pm

I was thinking about love languages recently, and came to a conclusion that got me to thinking about how love languages work.

I am a "words of affirmation" person. I need them more than anything else in a relationship. I need to hear that I am appreciated, and if I have to fish for the words, they don't count to me.

I demonstrate love with "acts of service." I realized that I do this to GET "words of affirmation." It was never a conscious thing. I don't do xyz particularly to hear ABC, but I can see how providing "acts of service" could ordinarily be something that would prompt "words of affirmation." I don't see any of the other languages working in pairs this way, but these two seem to.

I certainly know that after years of providing "acts of service" and getting nothing but criticism and contempt, I am feeling very disinclined to provide any more of them.

Has anyone else noticed this?

roo and snowy siggie
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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:15pm
I've been thinking about the same thing, as my DH rates high in terms of showing love through acts of service and receiving love through touch. I'm just about evenly split across the board.
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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:09pm

THat's funny, yesterday I thought,, gee I'm tired of hearing about love languages



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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:15pm

I think two touchers go well together... especially if they are both lop-sided toward touching. It makes for cheap and readily available love. Ha, you can even give and receive while you sleep.



What other love language can you say that about?

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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:36pm
...I don't know that I have a love language (one that prefer spoken to me)...but, I do love doing things for my 4 men...love it...nurturing things...typical female crap...love it...I am a hausfrau at heart...
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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:54pm
Then it would seem to me that you show love through acts of service for your DH.
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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 5:52pm

"I demonstrate love with "acts of service." I realized that I do this to GET "words of affirmation."



Well the way the love languages work, if you

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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 6:17pm

Trying,



I know all about how to work the love languages.