love languages question
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|Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:12pm|
I was thinking about love languages recently, and came to a conclusion that got me to thinking about how love languages work.
I am a "words of affirmation" person. I need them more than anything else in a relationship. I need to hear that I am appreciated, and if I have to fish for the words, they don't count to me.
I demonstrate love with "acts of service." I realized that I do this to GET "words of affirmation." It was never a conscious thing. I don't do xyz particularly to hear ABC, but I can see how providing "acts of service" could ordinarily be something that would prompt "words of affirmation." I don't see any of the other languages working in pairs this way, but these two seem to.
I certainly know that after years of providing "acts of service" and getting nothing but criticism and contempt, I am feeling very disinclined to provide any more of them.
Has anyone else noticed this?