Is marriage becoming obsolete?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Is marriage becoming obsolete?
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Mon, 11-22-2010 - 11:00am

I saw this article last week and thought it was pretty interesting.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 11-22-2010 - 11:07am

I saw this article too, and I have to say that in some cases it almost seems obsolete.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2007
Mon, 11-22-2010 - 12:06pm

Yes & no.

When people married 3 times, say they believe in marriage, I have to laugh. Or marriage is between a man & a woman, & to change that would be redefining it ... when those couples are doing so well at it now, ... 50% in divorce? hmmm.

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Mon, 11-22-2010 - 12:22pm

I've never seen "marriage" as the sole definition of family.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2009
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 6:19am

I'd say a healthy family unit is important to society, and for the upbringing of kids.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2009
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 8:48am

...I'm not most Americans and thankfully, most Americans don't live at my house...to me, no marriage is not obsolete...and, my marriage remains the backbone of our family life...thank God (literally)..

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 9:47am
As in most things, people think the grass is greener elsewhere. So we traded one set of problems (people "trapped" in unhappy marriages) for another set of problems (disposable family relationships, single parents). Very hard to compare which set of problems causes more human suffering. Whether the old days were "good" is a matter of perception, values, etc.

Advocates for battered women would fight tooth and nail against going back to fault-based divorce. New York just enacted no-fault divorce. The last state to give up a fault based system. I can't see us going back there any time soon. Even if it has some advantages that are often overlooked in our "I have rights but no responsibilities" society.

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Registered: 07-22-2003
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 10:13am
mirandarr8 wrote:

I saw this article too, and I have to say that in some cases it almost seems obsolete.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 10:22am

Lisa,

I've spent the last 16+ years of my life with him. We have a ton of joint assets that need protecting in case one of us dies. He's the only person I trust to make the correct decisions in a medical crisis. And, yes, I love him. I've always loved him. Sometimes I don't like him, but I'm 100% committed to the relationship, and he feels the same way.

Is that enough reasons to "legally bind yourself to him?"

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 10:23am

Another board is talking about this, too, and one of the members brought up an interesting survey they recently read.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-22-2003
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 10:26am
Yes, that's more than enough to bind yourself to him.

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