Married 1 year - Very Mismatched Libidos
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|Mon, 09-27-2010 - 2:57am|
Hi all -
I have been married a just over a year and have known my wife 4.5 years.
Sadly sex has become steadily rarer (once every 7-8 wks is average) over the last 3 years and oral has disappeared altogether.
We have similar jobs, no kids, and housework is shared fairly!
I can just about live with the frequency of sex (always hoping it will increase as we work on things) but I am finding the oral increasing impossible to go without! I always say I am just as happy to give as receive, but this does not make a difference.
Obviously I miss the feeling of a moist mouth and lips on me (I was probably spoilt by getting it twice a week in the early days!), to the point where I confided in a female friend who offered to 'help me out' orally but I turned it down in fear of it going further.
What i fundamentally miss is the level of intimacy that full and oral sex brings.
Obviously I have talked it over with my wife but she says her drive will come back when she loses weight (she has put on 42 pounds since wedding, however I still want to make love to her and also her drive sex drive had declined before the weight gain anyway).
Does anyone have any suggestions or has anyone been in similar situation and 'got thru to the other side' happily??