Misandry and Magazines

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Misandry and Magazines
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Sun, 10-16-2011 - 1:05am

I read this article this evening:

http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=8792&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=868323

This is not the first time I've encountered a woman who treats men like manipulable children, but it is the most recent and

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Sun, 10-16-2011 - 11:04am

I dislike both the content and tone. The tone is flippant and condescending, and the content formulaic and reductive (i.e., attempting to reduce a complex individual's emotional responses to a couple of hormonal peaks). I agree with you about the outcry that would result if the genders were switched in the article. It indicates not only a double standard, but also that men have a higher social valuation than women (because only the weak are allowed to criticize the strong without appearing graceless).

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Sun, 10-16-2011 - 2:22pm

Interesting idea about the gracelessness of criticizing those beneath us on the social ladder...But I'm not sure I agree with it. Overweight people are criticized and joked about and treated with condescension all the time and they are considered beneath the skinny and the fit, socially. Rednecks are treated and considered

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 8:59am
Unfortunately this is all too common. I've read about a dozen of these types of articles in the last 3 months. Overall, I feel that misandry is rampant in popular media. It's very insidious as well. Debra treating Ray like he's an idiot for laughs in "Everybody Loves Raymond" comes quickly to mind, but there are dozens of others, going clear back...Bosley on Charlie's Angels? Bumbling buffoon that the women tolerate. Men in general and Dads in particular catch a lot of crap on "innocuous" comedies that seep into our collective consiousness. I guess I'm extra attuned to it, because my mom treated my dad this way (and while he's not educated, my dad is FAR from an idiot.) He believed her, because he had trouble in school when he was a kid, he actually BELIEVED he wasn't smart. Ugh, such a mess, it made him angry and he didn't know how to handle his anger at the woman he loved, so a lot of it trickled down.

He abused me (and to a lesser extent my brother) as a vent for his rage. He owns his part in the abuse, and we've made peace with it, but my mother never has, and I will not ever forgive her, for what she did to him, (and probably still does, I stay away from her) for what he in turn did to me, and for what she taught me was "normal" that isn't normal in any way. It's disrespectful and horrible. I cannot abide by it, in life, or in a magazine article, or on tv. Men aren't children to be tricked and manipulated. They aren't dogs to be trained.

God I hate this whole phenomenon. I better stop before I start to rant.
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Registered: 03-27-2009
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 9:37am
Too many times I've heard all that justified by, "well women were treated badly for generations"...but why are the men alive today deserving of punishment for that?
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Registered: 02-21-2003
Mon, 10-17-2011 - 10:58am

<<"well women were treated badly for generations"...but why are the men alive today deserving of punishment for that? >>

It's like punishing today's young Germans for the Holocaust, which I always thought was unfair. I agree with Richard Dawkins that the "sins of the fathers" should never be borne by the next generation.

F.

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Tue, 10-18-2011 - 10:39am

Like M, I have a hatred and loathing

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 4:02am

If this was reversed what a hue and cry would result!

more ,man bashing not a WORD OF PROTEST

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