Mismatched libidos or loss of attraction?

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Registered: 02-25-2011
Mismatched libidos or loss of attraction?
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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 2:27pm

How do you know when its more than just mismatched libidos, like the loss of sexual attraction to your partner?

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 3:38pm

In my case, I can say it's LL and not loss of attraction for my DH, because I have no more enthusiasm for the idea of having sex with anyone else as I do with him.

There are some cases of ML that are tied to one spouse losing "attraction" for another, or just not having had much sexual attraction to begin with.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 5:59pm

Hi

chaika

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 6:56pm

...I happen to think a lot of ML relationships are situational or based on a lack of attraction...

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Sat, 02-26-2011 - 12:53am

If we see some people who were LL in one relationship

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Registered: 10-31-2009
Sat, 02-26-2011 - 3:17am

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 02-26-2011 - 1:10pm

Interesting!

chaika

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Sat, 02-26-2011 - 2:10pm

'pc' is in the eye of the beholder too...I wouldn't be offended if my husband were no longer attracted to me if I gained 40 pounds...as a matter of fact, if my husband gained 20 pounds, I might not be attracted to him...I'm shallow..when it comes to physical attraction (which equals sexual attraction in my mind...I am also attracted to a smart, successful man...but, it's his looks that first attract me) I want a fit, healthy, active man...one who gains 40 pounds isn't fit, active, or (in my opinion) healthy...

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 2:52am

Coming out of lurking for you

I lost all physical attraction for my ex-husband.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 2:56am

>>Women like you are admitting that the attraction is in the eye of the beholder.......If this was a man saying that line the world of PC would be all over him.

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Registered: 10-31-2009
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 10:37am

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