Mismatched....or just troubled
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|Sat, 02-23-2013 - 5:47pm|
Never used this particular board but have been on iV forever. My DH and I have been together for 42 long years and only recently have I realized our biggest mistakes were getting married too quickly and not truly BUILDING a healthy marriage all those years ago. The physical stuff was always the big glue that kept us together thru everything that has happened during all these years. He has misbehaved really badly and caused most of the troubles we've had and I guess I still don't want to go our separate ways! I've been so affected by events the past 5 years, esp. the past 2 or so, that my interest seems to have taken a vacation, and it feels to me we are living like roommates with occasional privileges. I initiate occasionally, but not because I really am in the mood - I have trouble truly enjoying it all that much anymore. The guy has done such a total turnaround I likely SHOULD be doing better than I am and I'm in counseling addressing my own problems. A lack of regularity has never been our problem, and he doesn't really complain. He even told me recently his own interest isn't what it once was but that also he really does miss it, too. I hate forcing myself to do something that once was so natural, the bedroom has been my best thing with him for so long, and I think that is what's bugging me. I didn't expect this, that's what I think I'm saying. I'm being treated for some health problems just like I think most women old enough to have been married for 42 years, and he's messed up enough times that it was the beginning of this problem, so it's complicated.
I could probably teach you all a thing or two by now, but at the same time I'm here asking for feedback. Anyone else experience this lack of interest and find an answer to it? It's the last thing I anticipated, but here it is.....
Boy, I had a hard time editing this so it will actually post. The topic of the board should allow for certain words, good grief.