My father was a terrible parent in many ways, but some of my fondest memories from my childhood involves snuggling up on the sofa and having him tickle my back with his fingertips. I also remember he would tell me I was beautiful, as a young child (4-5). When I became a teenager, he rather told me I should diet. But that's a different story.
I've always considered the father-daughter relationship as something extra special. I can see how utterly in love my partner is with our baby daughter and I really hope that will last. Her best measurement for what she deserves in life will be how he treats her.
I don't really know what's good or what you "should" do - but I just react naturally and spontaneously, which for me is pretty affectionate and includes touches and hugs.
I wouldn't necessarily judge different people's styles in this respect because I think kids are very smart about picking up people's love and affection for them - sometimes more stand-offish or less physically demonstrative people still have very close and meaningful relationships with their kids.
I'm not at all "possessive", and am delighted as she develops and matures, and welcome her boyfriends - I just want her to be safe and use her own judgement.
I have given this matter a lot of thought. It's possible that something got switched off in me very young because my father was so heartless and cruel. Or maybe I was just born this way. Who knows?
My father showed no affection, kindness, or humanity to his children (sons and daughters). He was a violent, scary, unpredictable bully, and I was
Who knows, eh? My father was very physically affectionate with me (never inappropriately). I remember once being surprised when one of my girlfriends told me (around age 12) that her father never hugged or cuddled with her. When I was a younger child I used to bury my face in my dad's hairy chest and had a nickname for him -- furry fuff. None of this translated to HL in adulthood, though.