My young husband has no sex drive!
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|Mon, 12-10-2012 - 11:50pm|
My husband and I are in our mid-twenties, we've been together 5 years and married for over 1.
I love sex, it's important to me and if it were up to me, we would have it every day! Unfortunately it's not so important to him. 4 out of 5 times I have to initiate it, and half the time he turns me down. I don't understand it, I am 25 years old, I'm very attractive, and I'm willing to try anything in bed!
We've discussed this issue a few times and he just sees sex as something dirty and pointless. He was raised in a very Christian household and was taught from day 1 that sex is wrong. He loves when I go down on him, but rarely returns the favor, and when he actually does, I get the sense that he just can't wait to get out of there. I could spend all night pleasuring him and he can't stand reciprocating for more than a minute. I'm very clean, I shower twice a day and I keep it smooth and clean down there... so I know that hygiene isn't the issue.
Really, the only time we have sex is in the middle of the night once every few weeks. He will only initiate sex is in his sleep and he usually wakes up kissing me. It's like sleep-walking, but instead, it's sleep-sexing. This isn't satisfying for me because I know he's only doing it because he didn't know what he was doing. I feel so sad about this... I'd never have an affair, but honestly, I don't want a passionless, sexless marriage for the rest of my life! I'm in my prime, I'm very sexual, and I'm gorgeous. This isn't fair!
I want to be spanked, tied up, taken, told what to do. Honestly, I wish my husband would ravage me, but for now I would settle for him touching me. It's very upsetting because I know I could so easily find someone to have sex with me, but I want him, I love him.
Earlier this afternoon he confessed to me that he just doesn't have a high sex drive. So here I am, typing to strangers and looking for answers.