New and coming out of hiding ;)

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Registered: 09-12-2011
New and coming out of hiding ;)
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 2:58pm

I've been reading with you all for a couple months now, I have really found it helpful knowing I am not alone and there is nothing wrong with me and/or how I feel about the relationship I am in. I have been in my current relationship for just under 2 years, I am the HL and he is the LL.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 09-13-2011 - 12:07pm
Welcome to the forum. Sorry you needus. Glad you found us.

Your story seems fairly common. "I was with a compulsive cheater and sex addict, so for my next relationship I chose a non-threatening guy who treats me well and helps me feel safe. Too bad he isn't into sex all that much." seems the "treats me like gold" and "helps me feel safe" kinda guys are more correlated with low sex drive. The high sex drive guys tend to be more correlated with "cheats on me". So difficult to find "just right".

Which in no way is intended to minimize your pain. It stinks to be mismatched. Just pointing out fo future reference that there IS a downside in picking a guy who is "too nice" so you'll be on the lookout for that next time. Assuming this time doesn't work out long term, which I hope it does.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Wed, 09-14-2011 - 9:36am
You need a new Dr!!!! He needs a hormone check ASAP. Ill bet he has low testosterone. Any Dr that just writes an Rx well.... You need another Dr.
Have him get a blood test. Might be as simple as wearing a patch.
As with the oral... What was the "horrible" experience? Sounds like an excuse. Of course I'm VERY sensitive to that because I love to give and ex Mrs. Would never allow it.
Get his testosterone checked. Don't go back to the pill pusher
 
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Registered: 09-12-2011
Wed, 09-14-2011 - 9:58am

He said he went down on a girl with whom it was 'that time of the month' and she didnt tell him.

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Registered: 09-09-2011
Wed, 09-14-2011 - 11:57am
hey My LL husband doesnt do oral very often either, he says its because he gets a sore jaw and he has a long beard that he doesnt want to get too...uh... moist. He's also pretty bad at it, but I think thats by design because its really not that difficult. I on the other hand am pretty much required to perform oral for him because if all else fails it will always give him an erection even if it takes me 15 minutes.
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Wed, 09-14-2011 - 4:23pm
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 09-14-2011 - 5:45pm

3 seconds of oral your ENTIRE LIFE?!?

Girl, you sooooo got some catching up to do.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 9:43am
ED can be signs of cardio-vascular disease or lot T. Get him to a doctor. If he passes his medical and still has problems with ED, get him some viagra. You should not have to endure 15 minutes of boredom just because he is embarrassed to admit he has a problem.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 9:44am
It is not fair that you suffer from both their stupidity. But life is not fair.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 09-09-2011
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 3:50pm
my husband doesn't have ed, he has regular stonking great erections in the morning which he complians about, and tries to lay on to get rid of because he doesn't like morning sex.
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Thu, 09-15-2011 - 5:06pm

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