I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year.
This is something you need to take into serious consideration and decide if he's someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
If your goal is to change him (or see him change), I wholeheartedly agree with Tish that this is a very low-odds prospect. He's told you that he doesn't enjoy sex or "get" why it's so compelling to other people. Believe him. Don't spend too much energy trying to figure out why. There isn't necessarily anything "wrong" with him, in the sense of a specific biological imbalance or psychological blockage that can be fixed. If sex is important to you, and it sounds like it is, then this isn't the guy for you, no matter how much he turns you on. A one-way street gets old after a while when your destination is in the opposite direction.
Sounds like it is time to find a new boyfriend now that you understand where he is coming from.
Another side of it is that he says that when he ejaculates, he rarely has an orgasm.
I think there may be some confusion of terminology here. Either that or we're talking about nocturnal emissions. Ejaculation, as far as I know, requires something like contractions from the prostate to the tip of the
It's called sexual anhedonia, in males it's also known as
I agree with Freelance here in that you shouldn't go putting all your money on him magically changing over time. That's who he is, and if it isn't alright with you then maybe you should move on to someone who you DO love 100% for the person he is.
It's actually quite insulting when people respond to questions such as yours with "he needs to go to counselling". I'm sure if he read it himself he would be quite shocked. If you hated chocolate, do you think he would send you to counselling? It's exactly the same. He doesn't like doing something that you love to do quite frequently, and you want to send him to counselling? Rediculous. And quite offensive.
Please do not jump on the "chip away at him over time and maybe we can break him" bandwagon that seems to be the way to deal with it these days. The bottom line is, you don't get together in a partnership with someone JUST TO CHANGE THEM. You love them the way they are. So if he isn't up to your expectations then show a little respect and have an amicable parting of ways.