New Year's Eve..plans? pressure? what?

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New Year's Eve..plans? pressure? what?
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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 8:56am

So how does NY's Eve work out for y'all in ML relationships?

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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 9:51am

..well...I think it's going to be kid-free as it appears that the two younger ones have been invited to watch the UofL/UK game and celebrate with relatives...and, the older one has moved full time to the village where he attends school so he'll be doing whatever a 20 year old university student does...(I don't really want to know...)...so, it'll be Mr. Z and me...we have 1000 movies to catch up on and a cheeseball recipe to try...(being honest here, we'll be in bed way before midnight...I am so lame that way)...we'll have sex, I'm sure...but, he's always so appreciative and loving that I don't dread it...I do understand why you do...I will say (and, a disclaimer to you Miranda)...if I dreaded having sex so much with a spouse that treated me with love and respect, that I dreaded a time period where it might be wanted...I would think seriously about leaving the relationship...I know the presence of children complicates things...I can comment on my experience only...but, my husband wants to have sex everyday (he'd prefer more than once a day more days than not, but has compromised down for me)...if I dreaded that and acted out my dread even subtlety, our marriage would suck...period...it would affect both of us to the point that we wouldn't feel the companionship/friendship that is so much of us...which would definitely be felt by the boys, which would make for a tense home...yuck...my heart goes out to those that do experience this...

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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 10:14am
In the past, all of the above. I hope. She dreads. We got out. That adds to the pressure. Yes, as zjg says, it stinks to live this way.

Now, of course, things are better as to the ML because I have given up on hoping for sex. So tomorrow's dinner and comedy show at the casino will not come with expectations. But I fear a part of myself is gone. An energetic positive part of me. I feel hollow inside. I am depressed. So is it better or worse now that our ML is "cured" by my lack of interest? Hard to say.

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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 10:14am

I'm not sure what the plans are this year, given the cirucmstances. We will probably be childless on New Year's Eve as well. I'm not sure if we will go out for dinner and a movie, theater, or just sit home and make a really decadent meal at the house. Sex may or may not happen, but I'm not dreading it either way. I'm counting my blessings and am extremely grateful to DH for the support he gives me.

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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 11:49am
>>If nothing else, the past few weeks have served to remind me how precious time is, and to make sure that I let my friends and family know how much they mean to me. Life is too short to dwell on the negative, so I'm choosing to embrace all that is wonderful and positive in life and not focus on the negative.<<

A good message for most everyone to take forward into the new year. Even though the sex situation has been somewhat better of late, I am having some difficulties looking at the "bright side" recently. Probably has a lot to do with last weekend's blow-out. I really need to learn to "let go" more.
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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 1:01pm

I expect another run of the mill weekend around the house.

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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 1:11pm

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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 1:29pm
>>It's hard to "let go" of things. My Dad used to tease me that "everything you've let go of had claw marks all over it". But, I'm letting go of what I can't control, and realistically the only thing I have any "true" control over is myself and how I choose to react to things. <<

Sounds familiar, from beginning to end.


>>DH let me sleep in this morning, and when I awoke at 9 am (that's really late for me) the coffee was made, kitchen was clean, and he'd made blueberry muffins. There was a note by the coffee pot, "Baby I love you, you mean the world to me. Please relax today, no housework, no bills, nothing just do what ever you want to do.... but no work."<<


Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww, that's so sweet.
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Thu, 12-30-2010 - 5:51pm

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Mon, 01-03-2011 - 8:42am
>>Horned frogs over badgers!!!!!!<<

Is a LL thing or a blonde thing that I do not have a CLUE wtf that is supposed to mean?

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