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|Sat, 06-19-2010 - 8:12pm|
Hi Everyone, I've never posted to this forum but am having a problem with mismatched libidos. I'm a HL (female) & my fiancee is a LL (male). We have sex about once every 2-3 weeks, but it isn't exciting b/c I really have to beg for that. And the last time I asked, I was bluntly shot down. This has been effecting my confidence and interest in marrying him.
My question is, has anyone found a way to make these relationships work (HL & LL)? The thought of calling off the wedding has been in my head since the first month we were engaged (he "became" a LL after getting engaged). We haven't even planned anything (my family has, though, which is a huge reason why calling off the wedding scares me).
My fiancee is a kind person and we can crack me up, but he just seems void of any passion- he doesn't have friends, doesn't want sex, and his social life is a cycle of work to TV to laptop. This behavior worries and bothers me.
The nagging question is: does talking really help? When I bring up the lack of sex he seems very apathetic and not interested in finding a solution to the issue. I've asked him to check for depression or something physical but his doctor wouldn't (at least that's what I was told). I'm starting to feel that without physical love I'm falling out of love with him.
Thanks for reading, sometimes I just want to make sure I'm not the only one! I cannot talk about this to others b/c they just think I'm being shallow (as if I think sex is the only thing). But for me, sex is symbolic of our passion as a couple & the health of our relationship.