Not MML after all?

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Registered: 01-13-2010
Not MML after all?
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Fri, 06-25-2010 - 9:14am

I thought that I'd been in a MML relationship for the past several years and I'd gotten myself active enough in other things in life (volunteering, classes, work, etc) that I didn't have as much time or energy to miss it anymore. I thought we just had different drives.


He admitted to me this week that did have a fairly high libido, but my natural odor (pheromones, I guess?) were a total turn off to him. Even if I've just stepped out of the shower, he finds it virtually impossible to maintain an erection near me. He made this revelation after we finally got pregnant. His job is over and now he doesn't have to deal with me anymore?


Has anyone ever heard of this before? Does anyone have experience? Advice? I can't fathom why he married me when he had a sex drive he knew that I couldn't satisfy and that I had a drive he had no intentions of trying to meet.

Pregnancy%20ticker
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Sun, 06-27-2010 - 12:08pm
Like you, I'm wondering what kind of man becomes sexually involved with a woman for years, impregnates her, and then reveals that he's
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Mon, 06-28-2010 - 3:43pm

Thanks. I was wondering if maybe this was his way of lashing out about feeling inadequate because of our MML issues - but then why act as if his libido is all there and the problem is me? If this was just his way of lashing out, it was an incredibly crushing way to do it. Now I don't know if he were to approach me for sex if I'd even be able to go through with it.

Pregnancy%20ticker
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Mon, 06-28-2010 - 5:08pm

I agree in that it sounds like a lame excuse. You might offer to go fragrance shopping with him and let him pick the sexiest fragrance he can find for you to use to cover your 'repugnant' natural smell but I suspect he will balk, refuse, or try it and say it's not working.


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