That would be impossible for me to do. dh said "I'm not happy, I want a divorce," and then we didn't see him for dust. I had no idea he was unhappy, so how could I describe things from his point of view? We used to be very happy together, and as far as I knew we were still fine after more than 24 years. I didn't get the memo that everything had turned to dust in his mind.
I think writing out "The Other Side" would be an easier task for someone whose spouse has spoken about their feelings. I could speculate about dh's interior life, but no way could I guess what really happened. He got really wierd in the last six months; he never explained what was going on. All I can tell you is that he was pursuing women on the Internet. He left some messages
I don't have time to write as eloquently as you did.
When you see it coming, duck!
Let's see, the most recent version goes something
I agree that it's difficult to describe things from our partner's point of view when he/she hasn't verbalized his/her feelings, but surely after 24+ years of marriage, you can guess what his complaints would be.
I've given this some thought based on what his hot buttons have been over the years. Channeling dh:
"I'm a really relaxed and easygoing guy. I don't like to think about doing anything unless and until I absolutely have to. For example, my wife