Passion??

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Passion??
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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 12:13pm

To spin off of the other discussions ...



seperate from the specific problems of a poster.



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In reply to: tulips_together
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 1:13pm

"That we'd light up for the other person, be happy to see them after a long day or even an interesting day, like it's the first time you saw them ...
Sit a little taller, smile a little more, laugh a little different,
lean into them, match their movements ...
That's the part I hope never to lose. That we never roll our eyes or sigh, upon seeing each other. We're only at about 6 years though, +/-."

DH and I still display all of these and more. We constantly touch on the couch, we hug, we kiss (as much as the kids hate it). I have a passion for him as a man. I have passion for him as my partner, and passion for my marriage.

I also have a passion for writing poetry and playing golf. Yet, I don't endlessly daydream all day about my next chance to play golf. I don't worry if I can't get inspired to write, unless I have a deadline looming.

I even still have passion for sex, just not the same consistently high level as my DH. And for me, just doing it is not increasing my natural libido. But this is just me.

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In reply to: tulips_together
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 1:36pm

I even still have passion for sex, just not the same consistently high level as my DH. And for me, just doing it is not increasing my natural libido. But this is just me.



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In reply to: tulips_together
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 1:40pm
Yes, I like sex as an activity. No analysis needed.
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In reply to: tulips_together
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 1:55pm

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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In reply to: tulips_together
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 2:24pm

I have passion for my husband but not passion for sex with my husband (or with anyone). I'm just not wired that way.

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Registered: 04-06-2006
In reply to: tulips_together
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 5:07pm

Ignoring conventions, yours or societies?

I see passion as the degree to which one would be willing to let go of their inhibitions to connect with another person. Inhibitions in this sense are not specific to any type of behavior or act. An example could be if you are a rather shy and circumspect person who is uncomfortable with public displays of affection; you would show passion by kissing in public because you felt strongly enough about the person you were kissing to ignore all the inner conventions that would otherwise inhibit you. Correspondingly, a lack of passion would disallow any letting go of such an inhibition and your life would be strenuously regulated by those inhibitions.

Ignoring convention due to a strong feeling of commitment...working late into the night rather than socializing, sleeping, or eating because your passion for the work or project superseded all other considerations.

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Registered: 12-10-2009
In reply to: tulips_together
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 3:55am

I don't think I do particularly look for passion from DW when it comes to sex anymore.

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Registered: 09-06-2010
In reply to: tulips_together
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 5:03am
I guess it compares to other passions because it's something that you're strongly driven to do and get a strong personal payoff from.




Edited 10/2/2010 6:23 pm ET by darling.carly
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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: tulips_together
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 7:14pm
I like your definition. It reminds me of Richard Dreyfuss' character in Close Encounters of the Third Kind. He has an articially-implanted obsession with a shape that turns out to be the shape of Devil's Tower in Wyoming. It's all he can think about. He sees it everywhere--in mashed potatoes, in shaving cream. Before long, he's throwing dirt and trees into his living room through the (closed) window to create the shape in greater detail and scaring his family to death. I think of passion as
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In reply to: tulips_together
Wed, 09-29-2010 - 8:38am

>>Ignoring convention due to a strong feeling of commitment...working late into the night rather than socializing, sleeping, or eating because your passion for the work or project superseded all other considerations.<<

I hate this definition. I will never do this, I will never feel so strongly about something that I allow it to take away caring for myself properly. Taking care of myself and my loved ones is the ONLY thing I am passionate about.

How about that?

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