Duty is only an ugly word when it leads to resentment. The tricky bit is to figure out what you can complete out of duty and NOT suffer the repercussions of resentment, because in a relationship, resentment is the most poisonously toxic feeling ever.
I'm starting to feel a lot of resentment, it is rearing its head in the guise of isolated moments of almost uncontrollable rage. I'm working on that.
I agree. And in your case I would hazard a guess that part of the resentment lies in the fact that your DH is hyper-critical of anything you do, and that in and of itself would breed resentment for me.
Yep, makes you wonder.
I am not sure how much I argue with the philosophers that their approach is "wrong".
When you see it coming, duck!
Yeh, I certainly feel like disengaging - not only from that very 1-sided notion of a marriage (I'd never agree to that), but from society generally.
The trouble with much current philosophy about sex is that it's been sodomized by the radical branch of feminism to the point that all sex is considered rape and a reinforcement of the patriarchal power structure. Where can you go with that except to flush it and start over?
Robin Morgan...says that rape exists anytime intercourse takes place when it has not been initiated by the woman out of her own genuine affection and desire.
This lays bare the naked sexist hypocritical radical feminism of this kind of thinking: If a woman initiates sex, then the other party must not be initiating, therefore she is committing rape. If the other party is a man and this paradigm considers men to be always receptive to sex and that he doesn't require the same mindset, it is sexist and hypocritical. And unfortunately, there are far too many women out there who, though they haven't read Robin Morgan, subscribe to the idea that "I may not be initiating now, but I want him to initiate now which is
Yes, I like your turn-the-tables notion exposing the toxic sexist feminist