Philosophy, sex and ML (LONG)

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Philosophy, sex and ML (LONG)
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 6:17am

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 9:17am
I just have to wonder when duty became such an ugly word.
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 9:37am

Duty is only an ugly word when it leads to resentment. The tricky bit is to figure out what you can complete out of duty and NOT suffer the repercussions of resentment, because in a relationship, resentment is the most poisonously toxic feeling ever.

I'm starting to feel a lot of resentment, it is rearing its head in the guise of isolated moments of almost uncontrollable rage. I'm working on that.

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 9:42am

I agree. And in your case I would hazard a guess that part of the resentment lies in the fact that your DH is hyper-critical of anything you do, and that in and of itself would breed resentment for me.

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 9:51am

Yep, makes you wonder.

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 10:16am
Excellent post! We have definitely lost our way, as a society, in terms of reconciling personal freedoms with the duties and obligations we have to our family, community, and greater society. I am optimistic that the pendulum will come back around, though. It's too bad that there has been so many casualties of that toxic thinking along the way.
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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 1:08pm

I am not sure how much I argue with the philosophers that their approach is "wrong".

When you see it coming, duck!

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 1:42pm

Yeh, I certainly feel like disengaging - not only from that very 1-sided notion of a marriage (I'd never agree to that), but from society generally.

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Sun, 09-05-2010 - 4:38am

The trouble with much current philosophy about sex is that it's been sodomized by the radical branch of feminism to the point that all sex is considered rape and a reinforcement of the patriarchal power structure. Where can you go with that except to flush it and start over?


Robin Morgan...says that rape exists anytime intercourse takes place when it has not been initiated by the woman out of her own genuine affection and desire.


This lays bare the naked sexist hypocritical radical feminism of this kind of thinking: If a woman initiates sex, then the other party must not be initiating, therefore she is committing rape. If the other party is a man and this paradigm considers men to be always receptive to sex and that he doesn't require the same mindset, it is sexist and hypocritical. And unfortunately, there are far too many women out there who, though they haven't read Robin Morgan, subscribe to the idea that "I may not be initiating now, but I want him to initiate now which is

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Sun, 09-05-2010 - 8:28am
...it's finding the LL that will hand over a blanket of sexual consent to begin with that is the problem...
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Sun, 09-05-2010 - 9:43am

Yes, I like your turn-the-tables notion exposing the toxic sexist feminist