Progress report

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 12:02pm
Had a nice session with Mrs. Hold this morning. Told her yesterday that I wanted some time with her after she put the kids on the bus this morning. She came back from dropping off S15 and dutifully marched into the bedroom. No scurrying to the kitchen and pretending she forgot. Kudos to her for being available. In the past she would freak out if I ever mentioned future intentions. So this is a welcome and pleasant change. I know I need to be on the lookout for those. And to admit positive change IS possible. So I am memorializing it here.

Also, she spoke during. Mostly, oooh, be careful of my sore neck and shoulder. Side note: she was available despite a sore neck and shoulder!!!!! But a few times she said "thanks" or "nice to hear" when I told her how much I enjoy being with her. This is a big improvement over silent and unmoving.

Hold here, desperately trying to shoo away the dark clouds hanging over eeyore.

When you see it coming, duck!

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 12:06pm

This all sounds very good, Hold. I am unpinning your tail and hiding it, to distract you from the dark clouds. You may commence looking for it at any time, but I will NOT give it up. NO eeyore.

Glad to hear it's going well for one of us!

roo and snowy siggie
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Registered: 12-10-2009
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 12:30pm

Time for a massage or back rub

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 1:54pm
...oh...what good news!!...I do so hope that you can hold onto the positive...

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Registered: 09-09-2006
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 10:04pm

Hi Hold,


I havent followed yr story so I'm interested to know what you have done to turn things around with your wife.


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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 12:28pm

Having followed your story for a long time, I'm extremely happy for you Hold! Moreover, it is inspirational for us all to see how dramatically and unexpectedly relationships can change- even ones that have been cold and distant for a long time.

I also congratulate you on your attitude. As the HLs in our relationship, we are often too quick to discount the small steps and want too much too soon. Change is most often not sudden, but a series of gradual steps is the way most transformations happen.

Once again, congratulations!

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 2:39pm

Thank you.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 3:33pm

WTF? How did you manage to get this started Hold? Are you guys having regular morning sex now?

I cannot even manage hotel sex, it seems....

roo and snowy siggie
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Registered: 02-03-2009
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 3:39pm
...Hold!!!...sexual banter!!!!...you crazy kids!!!...I am happy that just for right now it is easing up a bit and you seem to be progressing...good for you guys...your post made me smile...

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 3:42pm

News flash: today's weather report for h3ll is snow showers followed by freezing rain.


This explains why I got two competing job offers this week after more than a year of no income.

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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 3:42pm

That's awesome, Hold, you're making the rest of us jealous ;-)

Seriously, this is great news and a major change from just a few short months ago. Any idea what led to the breakthrough?

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