A question about "quality"

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A question about "quality"
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 8:47pm


I'm wondering if you think there's a connection between HL/LL and the kind of sex a person wants to have. I'm asking because I'm coming out of a 15 yr marriage with a LL man, who also, in my opinion, could never really let himself go completely. He was not adventurous and the sex was, well, kind of "basic" for me, and I always felt I was way out there, all alone. I also had an affair with a HL man, and we seemed perfectly matched, not only in how much sex we wanted to have but in that we were both much more adventurous.

Any thoughts?


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Registered: 03-24-2003
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 10:20am


I am LL, and I sometimes catch myself *hypothetically* wanting to (again) have a 'way out there' sex - yet not with my long term partner - whom I adore and fancy like mad, still.  Purely in a 'hm, I wonder' kind of way.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Thu, 08-23-2012 - 12:26am
Yes, I think HL and interest in explorative, adventurous sex go hand in hand (as a general rule).

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Registered: 06-27-2007
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 5:25pm
I am very HL and hate low quality the most. It is disappointing to some degree. However I understand that you have to have quantity to get quality as well and the wife will not sign up for a long quality time every time. But it is disappointing sometimes.