Questions for Those with HL

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Questions for Those with HL
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1. If your partner would gladly have sex with you whenever you so desired, about how often do you think you'd want to have sex? every 2-3 days

2. About how often do you think your partner would like to have sex with you, and about how often do you have sex? don't know his real preference. Once a week, though sometimes twice

3. About how often do you masturbate? sometimes none, & some weeks 3-5 times during the week

4. Do you feel that your partner has any aversions to your body and/or to sex? If so, what are they? No

5. How do you think your partner feels about his/her body? Over weight, but losing it now. I don't think that was a factor in sexual enjoyment though. Who cares, take your clothes off, is my motto.

6. Do you have any aversions to your partner's body and/or to sex? If so, what are they? No.

7. How do you most wish your partner would change? Be my age?

8. How enthusiastic does your partner have to be in order for you to enjoy having sex with him/her? We do best when mirroring each other. One gets excited, the other gets excited, and it escalates.

9. About what percentage of the time do you initiate, and about what percentage of the time does he/she? What would be ideal for you? I make reference to it often, I make vague efforts to initiate like rubbing his butt/package, if he swats me away, sometimes I give up, sometimes I don't. If he's actually serious, I'll usually give up sooner.

10. What would you rather do than have sex? Sleep, or go on vacation.

11. If you're married, do you feel that your spouse subconsciously or consciously

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Thought I'd answer these:

1. If your partner would gladly have sex with you whenever you so desired, about how often do you think you'd want to have sex?

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Fri, 04-22-2011 - 10:42am

In an effort to understand HL better, I have some questions for those of you with HL.

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. If your partner would gladly have sex with you whenever you so desired, about how often do you think you'd want to have sex? Since I don't consider myself HL but more ML as a guy, I say 3-4x a week.

2. About how often do you think your partner would like to have sex with you, and about how often do you have sex? 1x every week or two-and that is exactly how much she wants because I don't initiate any longer.

3. About how often do you masturbate? 2-3x a week

4. Do you feel that your partner has any aversions to your body and/or to sex? If so, what are they? Yes, she has made comments about the "mess" before, which is my semen. I think she likes my body fine, just doesn't have the physical need for me.

5. How do you think your partner feels about his/her body? She thinks she is too fat, she is a little overweight but that would never stop me from wanting her.

6. Do you have any aversions to your partner's body and/or to sex? If so, what are they? No, she is just fine by me.

7. How do you most wish your partner would change? Be willing to work towards a compromise-be willing to learn more about male sexuality, be better able to understand that sex is how I feel the emotional and physical connection to her. Be willing to realize, since my drive is higher, she can give me a helping hand to bridge the gaps-she doesn't have to have sex every time, even though she thinks it has to be that way or not at all.

8. How enthusiastic does your partner have to be in order for you to enjoy having sex with him/her? Well, somewhat, if I can tell she is not into it, I have lost my erection before. Who wants to be with someone that is just wanting you to get it over with.

9. About what percentage of the time do you initiate, and about what percentage of the time does he/she? What would be ideal for you? 100% for her, after years of trying to figure out when to initiate, or just trying for it to hear, no, not tonight or I am soooo tired or have a headache, I just said, I am a green light so whenever you want me, I will be available. Probably not smart on my part but after being rejected countless times, you just get sick of it.

10. What would you rather do than have sex? Can't think of anyhing, I love it as much as any other activity-I would say watching my favorite sports teams or my kids play sports but there is a lot of stress involved with those activities, with sex it just makes me feel very close/loved by my wife.

11. If you're married, do you feel that your spouse subconsciously or consciously

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