Role Reversal

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Registered: 09-14-2011
Role Reversal
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Wed, 09-14-2011 - 6:43pm

When we first got together (over four years ago) I was the HL partner and my husband was very LL. I was constantly frustrated, complained a lot, and probably didn't deal with it in a very healthy way, but it was miserably frustrating, and I couldn't understand why he didn't want to have sex. After 2-3 years, and a lot of communication, we were having fairly regular sex, both pretty happy.

Well, about six months ago (I'm not exactly sure when it happened, but within the last 6-8 months) our roles completely switched. He wants it all the time, and I just have no sex drive anymore. It is even more frustrating than when I wasn't getting what I wanted because now I feel horribly guilty that I don't want to have sex when I can tell he is feeling the same way I was before. I can relate to how he feels because I know how much it sucks.

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Registered: 09-30-2007
In reply to: rbethto
Wed, 09-14-2011 - 9:19pm
As the old Nike ad says " Just Do it" you are putting to much pressure on both of you. It's just sex!! If you stop having sex and start making excuses you will never "get inthe mood" you also need to stop the dialog in your head saying you are not in the mood. Just say yes and let him go to work. I bet once you start you enjoy it. Come on you are 23. I think you gotbwhat you wished for and now the chase is over . I would just stop playing games and enjoy your husband
Good luck
 
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Registered: 02-21-2003
In reply to: rbethto
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 1:06pm

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Registered: 09-16-2004
In reply to: rbethto
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 3:27pm

I would put money that you have some serious resentments that you are not fully acknowledging.

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Registered: 12-10-2009
In reply to: rbethto
Sun, 09-18-2011 - 1:09pm

It's "good" that you know the other side