Sex and Manipulation

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Sex and Manipulation
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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 5:54pm

Just wondering what others think of this topic- your experiences with it, all the way around.

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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:02pm
fruitbat2010 wrote:

Just wondering what others think of this topic- your experiences with it, all the way around.

I hate being manipulated. Especially when I get manipulated out of sex. But I have to admit that I have felt desperate enough to attempt to manipulate someone INTO sex.

No one wants to look down the barrel of a gun. But when you're holding the grip, it can be powerful.

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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:24pm

As much as I enjoy sex, when I believe I'm being manipulated with it, my response is, "you can keep your sex."

I'll keep my pride.

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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:36pm

Sex is often used as a tool for manipulation. So, is money and social standing. Those who are prone to manipulation of others will use whatever tools they have at hand.

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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:41pm

Have you manipulated with sex or been manipulated with sex more? Examples?

I would say have manipulated more definitely, with sexuality rather than "sex" though.

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:08pm
fruitbat2010 wrote:

Have you manipulated with sex or been manipulated with sex more? Examples?

I have never manipulated with sex and never been manipulated for sex. However, on rare occasions, I have manipulated for sex and been manipulated with sex. I have actively soliciated manipulations with sex, which I think is the same as manipulating for sex. The best example is: Once I developed a barter system with my wife whereby I would receive certain sexual favors in exchange for doing certain chores around the house. Removing all the weeds in our very large yard was good for a blow job. Cleaning out the garage and washing the cars was good for a hand job. Mowing the lawn was good for intercourse. Taking out the trash was good for seeing her naked. My proposal (or proposition) was DOA.

I would say have manipulated more definitely, with sexuality rather than "sex" though.

I'm not sure what this means. Do you have any examples?

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:31pm
my_sex_toy45 wrote:
fruitbat2010 wrote:

Have you manipulated with sex or been manipulated with sex more? Examples?

I have never manipulated with sex and never been manipulated for sex. However, on rare occasions, I have manipulated for sex and been manipulated with sex. I have actively soliciated manipulations with sex, which I think is the same as manipulating for sex. The best example is: Once I developed a barter system with my wife whereby I would receive certain sexual favors in exchange for doing certain chores around the house. Removing all the weeds in our very large yard was good for a blow job. Cleaning out the garage and washing the cars was good for a hand job. Mowing the lawn was good for intercourse. Taking out the trash was good for seeing her naked. My proposal (or proposition) was DOA.

I would say have manipulated more definitely, with sexuality rather than "sex" though.

I'm not sure what this means. Do you have any examples?

Your proposal is too funny!
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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:53pm

I thought your proposal was hilarious too. Hmmm, my garage does need cleaning badly. Maybe it will work better than the nagging I've been doing for two years, lol!

What I mean by that is I am umm,

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 1:07pm

How come nobody else admits being bad?

Because the last thing I want to talk about during sex is how I want a new car, or I'd really like that coat I saw, or how dirty the garage is.

It's time for sex, so let's talk about ... you know, sex things.

What sort of "requests" are you making?

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 1:17pm
lisak613 wrote:
If she handles certain chores such as scrubbing toilets, mopping floors, making beds and doing dishes, does she than get to propose that you leave her alone?

At the time I made the proposal, I was leaving her alone 6 days a week; she was scrubbing toilets one day a month (the kids were taking their turn one day each a month and the toilets were therefore getting scrubbed four days a month); she was making one bed about 3 days a week (the kids were making their own beds); she was mopping the floors about one day a month; she was doing the dishes about two days a week (the kids were taking their

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 1:18pm
fruitbat2010 wrote:

I thought your proposal was hilarious too. Hmmm, my garage does need cleaning badly. Maybe it will work better than the nagging I've been doing for two years, lol!

I thought the same thing....We've thought about exchanging special sexual favors for chores just as a means to spice things up.

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