Sex Drive and General Fitness???

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sex Drive and General Fitness???
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:46am
This thought poped into my head as i was reading Ace's response in the HL thread.

I am an HL, i am also very active, i cycle, hike, kayak, and walk. I have a high stress job (like just about everyone these days) and don't want it to kill me. I find i NEED the physical activity to keep centered. I also find that the more active i am the higher my drive seems to be. And as a matter of fact have found that some of the best sex i've had has been shortly after exercise.

On to my question... Those of you that are HL, do you consider your selves "more active" and are your LL partners active or more sedintary? IN my case LL DW gets little exercise though she is quite healthy and not very overweight.

I've read a greatdeal from a number of professionals on the subject of sexual dysfunction. And all of them list exercise as a non drug recomendation to help improve sexual health.

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Registered: 02-07-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:50am
I am not active. I will be the first to admit it. My preferred exercise is sex. lol My DH is also not active though. And when he visited the doctor about his LL, he was told to exercise. I do know that when I do go on a fitness kick and am going to the gym regularly my sex drive does increase, so I do agree that it can make a difference. I think if nothing else, it makes you feel better, which makes you feel more like having sex.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:04am
I am active. I work out 3 times a week and on the days I don't work out I am always on the move. In fact I barely sit still. I find now that I am fit, I feel sexier (not that anyone notices).

DH in fact is very out of shape. I told him the other day the only exercise he gets is bending over to tie his shoes! I wish he did more but it's something he has to do for him self.

It's hard to say if I'm hornier after exercise because I'm always horny! LOL

Happy Friday!


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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:37am
My wife and I both exercise daily for about an hour. Neither one of us is sedentary. My wife has a very low sex drive and I never noticed any effect whatsoever of exercise on her sex drive. I think the positive effects of physical exercise on sex drive is highly overrated. Exercise is good for you but don't bet on it for increased sex drive.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:37am
I work out regularily and am HL, but I was HL when I wasn't working out. Working out has not increased my desire for sex. If anything, working out has burned off some of the sexual frustration and kept my mind off of sex. With everything else in my day, it keeps me busy and more tired at the end of the day which has calmed down my horniness (of course I would still be willing and wanting to have sex).

My gf on the other hand, works out more than I do. Not only has it not increased her sex drive, she is also so tired by 7:30 - 8pm that sex would be out of the question.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-04-2003 - 5:26am
I will tell you I am thin and active and exercise regulary w/a decent diet. My DH on the other hand eats anything he wants, is overweight, on meds for high bp and tryglycerides and doesn't exercise at all. So I definatley think this plays a role in the realm of things. I believe it is more than just weight, I think it is emotional too that he may have pyscholgical baggage therefore can't be there for me in any way. Think is your wife emotionally there for you too.?
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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 8:33am
I don't think it always works that way. I'm pretty physically active for having a desk job, until very recently (the last six weeks or so) I was exercising about every other day, several days a week were pretty vigorous. My SO also works out at about the same intensity and frequency as I do, we're a fit and healthy couple who enjoy backpacking, running, and cycling together, but that doesn't always translate to the bedroom. My job is more stressful than his and requires much more of my time (he's got loads of free time), which could have more to do with it than our general fitness.

I think this could be a valid argument for a lot of people, fitness boosts self-esteem and improves stamina, it helps us feel more alive and healthy! I just wish it always worked! ;)


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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 10:31am
I exercise daily and afterwards always feel aroused. My DH gets very little exercise and is LL. I don't know if exercise leads to increased libido. But I do think sexual health and physical health are correlated.