Single, never married and no kids

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Single, never married and no kids
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Sat, 04-14-2012 - 7:02pm

I am 36 years old and I want to be a mother before it it too late.

I am so frustrated. The guys I want do not want me and the guys that want me I am not attracted.

Sometimes I think I should settle for a guy that wants me since I am not getting younger. Have a few kids with him and

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Sat, 04-14-2012 - 7:36pm

The friends of my parents married as their estates in France ajoined.

dragowoman

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Sun, 04-15-2012 - 5:26am

This is one of the more callous expressions I've seen, and whatever happens, I do hope you're very clear about your views before you lure anyone into

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Sun, 04-15-2012 - 7:47am
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 11:48am

The axiom is those we want do not always want us and those who want us are not the ones we want.

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 12:59pm

yes; I would also first try the sperm bank or trusted friend or adoption.. Its

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 2:11pm
Frankly, I don't think you have any business procreating at all! That kind of thinking is so incredibly callous and selfish! You are not thinking at all about how this would affect the father or the kids. This is disgusting to me...
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 8:38pm

I know it is disguising and selfish and that is why I have not done it. I know I cannot follow through what I wrote.

I would never do it.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 9:01pm
And are you attracted to men who are equally attractive, or are you only attracted to men who are more attractive?

I never thought of this question. Let me to answer your questions based on my last relationship. We dated for 5 months.

He is of average looks and he says between the two of us, I look better than him. I like him because he is adventurous, likes day trips, biking, go to the beach and bbqing. We have fun cooking at home and watching tv. We have bouncing conversation.

We are also incompatible in several ways. For example, he likes to have the AC on at full blast and I am cold in the summer. When we watch TV, he has the volume really loud which bothers me. He likes to go out to the pub and drink with is buddys every week. He makes good money but has hardly any savings. Whereas I make so much less yetI I have savings. I know if we stayed together we would argue about money as I am a saver.

The question regarding looks, I would rate myself as a 6. The guy I dated is also a 6. As for personality, I would also rate myself as a 6. I am of average of intelligence with a college education and a average job.
Lets turn to the last guy I rejected, he is from a racial background that I am attracted to. We met twice and the second time, I was very sure that I do not want to see him again. Yet he has everything I

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 9:08pm
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Money incompatibilities are a legitimate deal-breaker, but this doesn't seem like that big of a gulf to bridge. (Other big deal-breakers are sex and kids.)

The rest of your incompatibilities are ridiculous, in my opinion. If you expect that your partner will not have any annoying habits at all, you are living in a fantasy world. It's no wonder you are still single if that's your belief system.
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 9:21pm

I posted by accident before I finish writing my response. Let me thank everyone for their responses before I forget.

Another guy that rejected me was probably out of my league meaning he was very attractive and very highly educated.

I met a guy who works in the same street as me and we went out twice. I also find it hard spending

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