Slowly dying passion ...

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Registered: 03-22-2011
Slowly dying passion ...
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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 1:30pm

Perhaps I am a odd girl because I have a high libido and I want to have sex 10 times more than my boyfriend.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 2:30pm

Welcome to the board, glitter.

It's all relative, I suppose, but 3-4 times a week is orders of magnitude more than most people on this board are getting. Perhaps he simply can't keep up with your libido. I suspect that if you keep pushing, his interest will continue to wane. On the face of it, it doesn't sound like there's anything amiss in your relationship, unless you're leaving something out. On the contrary, a slight dip in sexual frequency after the first blush appears to be the norm. If 3-4 times a week leaves you anxious and unfulfilled, you may want to consider looking for a really HL guy who puts an extremely high priority on sex.

JMHO Freelance

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p.s. There are no "guys." It's YOUR guy that matters.

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 2:30pm

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Registered: 03-27-2009
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 2:43pm
Guys may average a more active libido than girls......but on the individual level it's still a crap-shoot. with the other guys before me my wife was always the higher libido.....and even in the very beginning with me she never could keep up...30 years on it's almost an order of magnitude difference...me 2-3 a day...her 2-3 a week....real average about 4 a week...+ my using manual overrides daily...and occasional good night HJ's from the wife.
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Registered: 12-18-2009
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 2:51pm
It seems like your relationship , as per your fear, is fading.

Its not normal.

I agree, YOUR guys is not the same as ALL GUYS.

Re-evaluate your relationship.

If talking doesnt help, leave before its late
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2011
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 4:37pm

Thank you!!!

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Registered: 03-22-2011
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 5:47pm
No I think you are wrong and I was reading into it too much .... he has never been as interested in sex as I am ... I simply feel we have different libidos and as all relationships things slow down after awhile. Thank you though for your opinion but I think we will be fine :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2009
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 5:50am

Even with a high libido, guys do think about other things besides sex.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 7:25am

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 8:48am

"getting to the bases"

Thanks F, made my day!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2011
Thu, 03-24-2011 - 2:35pm
O you are too funny! LOL
I think my guy just has a lower libido ..... as he is older now and gained weight and tired lots more. He is still interested and I think he thinks about sex lots but just doesn't have the energy to follow through.

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