Talk about messed up!

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Registered: 12-03-2002
Talk about messed up!
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 4:28pm

So women are having less sex because the feel guilty they are turned on more. SOMETHING IS WRONG!!!!!


Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 4:36pm

This is not good science. Someone is drawing conclusions about why physical arousal and mental desire don't line up for some women. There may be some cases where "guilt" is to blame, but I don't think it's the overwhelming reason. I think that women are so used to ignoring their bodies and their needs that this is just another thing they "tune out."

The reason I say this is that just about every woman on the planet has spent time on a "diet" which leads women to ignore their bodies hunger cues. I've spent so much time dieting I cannot even tell when I am hungry anymore. A large portion of women have spent a lot of time sleep deprived, because their childrens' needs (or some other issues) come before their own (another example of ignoring their bodies.) Been there, done that, live it every day. Girls are raised to ignore their bodies' signals. It's just the culture we live in. These are two examples, I know there must be more, I'm just too tired to come up with them now.

roo and snowy siggie
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 5:40pm

Before now, I never thought it would have mattered why I wasn't getting the sex that I felt I deserved but yes, this reason would suck big time.

"The more I want you baby the less I can act on it"


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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 9:27pm



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Registered: 08-24-2006
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 6:29pm

I'm new and will post my story at some point (pretty extreme I tell ya).

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Registered: 04-28-2009
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 7:11pm

What is good for a man should be good for a woman in our culture.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 7:47pm


Your condom speech proves onajourney's point.

>> The guy won't think you're easy because you brought condoms. He'll think you're easy because you're going to have sex with him.)>>

Parents of boys aren't out there telling their sons to worry about whether or not a girl will think they are easy.

There is a mixed message, but I don't think that many adult women are really held back from enjoying sex by it. I think most adults are capable of realizing that it's okay for adults to have and enjoy sex with other adults, barring any kind of extreme religious upbringing.

roo and snowy siggie
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Registered: 05-31-2010
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 8:28pm

I am teaching my DD that sex is and should be an extremely pleasurable experience between two people who are ready for that stage of a relationship. I have told her that she should have condoms, because her partner may not remember and it is the caring, responsible thing to do, to protect both herself and her partner.

This is the same speech I will give my DS when we reach that point.