There's definitely a pod in my basement!

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Registered: 05-04-2006
There's definitely a pod in my basement!
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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 3:40pm

DH and I had sex yesterday morning, but he did not have an orgasm.

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 3:48pm

I hope that you don't have to give back the pod person.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 3:51pm
I'm wondering if some of you "my boardies" got ahold of him and gave him what for or something...
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 4:52pm

Did all of the apologizing and apparent consideration of your interests come after the e-reader stand of yours?

If so, it could be the scenario I was trying to describe where what is intended to be given (by you in this case) is better received BECAUSE you said no (assured honesty), hence your giving becomes more honest and better received and finally, he gives based on his inherent sense of justice?

Hmmm, makes me wonder anyway.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 4:56pm
I think he has a much better sense of entitlement than justice, but yes, most of this went down after the e-reader stance (which was also better received than I can ever remember a "no" ever being received.) I am more likely to think that something happened during his 6 day trip to Texas (for DS's Air Force graduation) that has made him re-evaluate his behavior. Either one of you all got ahold of him or DS said something to him or some other weird and random thing set him "off" as it were.
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 5:14pm

Let me give you another example.

This morning before I left for work, my gf offered me a pasty to take with me and just for background, she loves her pastries. It was

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 5:18pm
uh, I'm completely confused by your analysis. I can tell you how this would go down in my world though. I would give him two, because I don't NEED three, even if I wanted them. He'd eat two, never give it a second thought.
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 5:24pm

Okay, when we are selfish, others know we are being honest as this is rarely ever faked. In fact, it's natural (remember no

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 5:29pm
So he believed me more because I said no about the e-reader? It made my responses regarding sex afterward seem more true and sincere to him? And in response to his perception of honesty on my part, he was more caring?

This is all very convoluted to me. I like my simple world better. Yours is like some kind of M. C. Escher thing...
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 5:45pm

Yes, his 'drawing hands' is an excellent example... a causation spiral only someone must begin it if it's not already in place and maintain if should it become off-balance.

Anyway, at least you were able to repeat it back in your own words... an excellent start to new learning.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Wed, 10-20-2010 - 6:02pm
Holy crap! I might have to start saying "no" about stuff besides sex more often!!

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