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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 7:11pm

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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 7:35pm
tranquility_goddess wrote:

I don't know if it's different for me because I'm a woman, and men are "supposed" to be HL, but it always hurt like hell, feeling as if my H was doing me a favor having sex with me.

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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 8:13pm

why are you reading this book?

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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 8:44pm

I imagine my DH would feel hurt if he percieved my having sex at times when I'm not aroused as "my doing him a favor" or "doing a duty" or "taking one for the team".

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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 9:04pm
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Thu, 07-28-2011 - 7:51am
tranquility_goddess wrote:

"I imagine my DH would feel hurt if he percieved my having sex at times when I'm not aroused as 'my doing him a favor' or 'doing a duty' or 'taking one for the team'.

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 7:51am

"she knows it is important to me even if it isn't as important to her"

Nicely put, and also how I feel about the situation.

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Thu, 07-28-2011 - 7:56am

I wouldn't worrry about the raw.

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Thu, 07-28-2011 - 1:56pm
I agree with the earlier post: the pain won't end while you remain with your H and the ML remains unresolved.

I agree you are "beating a dead horse". So what? I do it all the time. If you can't learn to a way to deal with the situation so it stops hurting, then you are going to want to keep scratching the site of the wound. We know it only makes things worse. But when it itches, you gotta scratch, even if you know it only makes things worse!

When you see it coming, duck!

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