Tricky little heart
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|Thu, 05-20-2010 - 6:27am|
My DH had a heart attack a couple of weeks ago. Fortunately the damage was fairly minimal and he's recovering very well. Of course it was a shock to all of us because he doesn't fit the profile at all: he's 57, tall and slim, rather obsessive about healthy eating, exercises regularly, etc. He's been trying to stay away from meds all his life, but now he's accepted that he needs them to reduce his odds of having another event.
While DH's heart attack has been very distressing to me, I can't help noticing some feeling of relief at having the expectation of sex taken off the table for a while. Even if we only have sex once a month on average, I'm always aware of the "duty" to have it, which weighs on me every night that we don't (even though DH has NOT EVEN ONCE complained about our sex life). I hope HLs don't jump on me for saying this, but having a break from this sense of duty is psychologically freeing.
p.s. I found it a little amusing that the American Heart Association guidelines for the management of myocardial infarction state that it may be OK to resume sex WITH YOUR REGULAR PARTNER after 2-4 weeks. Sex with a new partner might get your heart rate up too high, so it's not permitted! The guidelines seem to accept the politically incorrect reality that sex with a new partner is more sexually exciting. Yes, I know there are exceptions, but still.