Update from "He's Obsessed with Sex..."
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|Sat, 02-18-2012 - 4:04am|
I ended my relationship on Monday. We got into an arguement about the videos, specifically the one of him and another girl that was taken in March of last year when we first started dating. I denied it was last year, but I confirmed it with his sister.
Things have only gotten worse. He began texting threatening messages to me such as "I'm ruthless when backed into a corner" and "It's only going to get worse for you" and "I'll show everyone everything".
I didn't even give him a choice- I procured a police escort while my parents and I moved my belongings out of our apartment (he was there) and I haven't yet given him back the engagement ring.
I'm realizing now that this relationship isn't about mismatched libidos. It's about how controlling and manipulative he was. It's about his constant need to know where I am and what I am doing and who I am talking to in any circumstances. It's about his ANGER issues and the fact that he is verbally and emotionally abusive, not to mention sexually aggressive. I thought my submitting to his sexual desires would make him happy and therfore less mad at me and release some of the stress and tension from our relationship. I found myself "giving in" to sex in order to make him happy and avoid an arguement about it. That's not cool...
I thought I could "fix" him or at least make the relationship better. I can't make him better.
Police are involved. Lawyers are involved and an order of protection has been filed. The judge denied my emergency order or protection so now both of us have to be in court and I'm overwhelmed. Not only did my relationship and engagement end, but I now have to speak to people about these videos and his behavior.
Thanks for all of your comments and advice. I know I'm better off without him. It will just take some time to heal.