A vent after last night's argument
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|Wed, 07-13-2011 - 9:29am|
So no real movement on the "open marriage" thing..I'm reading Opening Up by Triastan Taromino, which is an OK book, but it's mainly a list and discussion of the different types of non-monogamous relationships. Any advice in the book suffers from the same problem as books about mismatched libidos--Everything is based on the concept that this is an issue that everyone involved wants to work on fixing. However, the problem with MY relationship is that the LL partner doesn't really see a problem (beyond me not simply being happy with what I have.)
I don't actually want an open relationship, I still desire my wife more than anyone. Also I'm sure it wouldn't work because my wife is unwilling/unable to have frank, open-minded discussions of sex.
I found out something interesting last night, though. My wife was kind of giving me a hard time about my friendship with my good friend's ex-girlfriend. My wife isn't really the jealous type, so I found her discomfort somewhat amusing. I jokingly mentioned that I thought our relationship was open now so I'm free to pursue sex with other women. She didn't find that at all funny, which isn't surprising. The surprising thing that came out was that if we did open our relationship, she would also expect to be able to date other men. Even