Want a Hotter Sex Life? Try These 20 Tips Tonight!

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Want a Hotter Sex Life? Try These 20 Tips Tonight!
Fri, 09-07-2012 - 2:56pm

Some of these tips look like a bunch of fun!  Has anyone tried these or will try these ideas?


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Registered: 05-12-2004
Fri, 09-07-2012 - 9:48pm

Not to be a wet blanket but simply suggesting any of these, let alone attempting, would cause DW to hunker down in her shell for longer than normal. 24 years of research tells the story, what would be fun for me is quite the opposite for DW. 

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Registered: 01-11-2012
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 12:53pm
Everybody on this board is in a ML relationship, and I don't think that anybody who has a HL has not tried to increase frquency by using any of these tips. That being said, I think that these tips will work on a couple who are more matched sexually. Many of us LLs will run for the hills if our spouses tried these, many of us were "victims" of these same moves.

Nice try, but you've got the wrong board for this one...
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Registered: 09-16-2004
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 3:29pm
Yeah, have to laugh at stuff like this. This past week my LL wife initiated by suggesting we could have some sexy time after she dropped off the kids at school in the morning. I told her I would enjoy seeing her in some string bikini panties. Well, that totally killed the mood for her when it came time to do the deed. She went along with the sex -- sans the panties -- and it was hardly satisfying.

That led to a discussion where we compromised on sex her way if she initiates and sex my way when I do. (Although "my way" is not even close to really being my way.)
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 3:43pm

I didn't even make it a third of the way through the list before concluding that none of the quotes are real. They're all fabricated from any of the 4,698 available shallow sexual self-help books.

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Registered: 10-29-1998
cmthia wrote:

Hi All,

Thanks for the interesting replies.

I think in our relationship I am the LL and hubby is the perpetual teen with the HL.  Meaning he is ready at the drop of a hat or any other item of clothing.

I found all of the tips to be amusing and interesting.  Hubby and I may be ML's but I am always open to new ideas and fun things to share.



You may be the LL in your relationship, but you are not the LL I am used to. In the first place my DW would never read anything about sex online of in print. You sound like you may have a lower libido than your DH, but you do have a libido. You are willing to talk about sex, read about it, even study possible things that would make sex more fun. I'll bet you like to kiss, cuddle, hug, touch etc .In my experience this is not typical of a LL.I would be thrilled to  death to have a DW like you who I could talk about sex with and cuddle up to at night with an occasional show of interest on her part and some passionate kissing.. Any IC, BJ, HJ or other sexual activity would be a dream come true. From my point of view, your hubby is a luck man..

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Registered: 09-16-2004

Not TMI at all.  You are indeed lucky to have a partner that can deal with your quirks and issues.  I would not be able to function in a RL that devoid of physical affection.  I would shrivel up and wilt like a flower without sun and rain.

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Registered: 10-31-2009

"That led to a discussion where we compromised on sex her way if she initiates and sex my way when I do.  Although 'my way' is not even clost to really being my way."

Just out of curiosity, what would a lovemaking session your way be like (if you're willing to tell us, of course)? Thanks.

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Sun, 09-16-2012 - 11:08pm
I would want to incorporate lingerie/sexy outfits, more foreplay, more sex toys, more positions, and/or longer sessions. Being mindful of how inhibited she is, I wouldn't push her too far out of her comfort zone, but it would certainly require some stretching on her part.