Wanted to post about a small triumph!
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|Fri, 03-28-2003 - 11:08am|
Well, I obsessed about it all the next day. Big time. And I had plans that night to go out w/some GF's while he stayed home w/our DS. I couldn't IMAGINE NOT obsessing and being able to enjoy my night out when all I could think about was sex with my DH. Got home and he was there and welcomed me with very nice kisses. I asked him what DS was doing. he was in the basement tv room watching a movie. I just said "Great, lets go take a nap" and he looked at me funny and repeated kind of confused "A Nap?" And I said "absoloutely" then gave him a big slow deep kiss with my arms wrapped around him and grabbing at his butt.
He said "Yeah, ok, we can do that"
Well, got up there and discovered once again that for him, the thought of "gettin' some" doesn't get him up. At all. So I had to work with it. And to be honest, the response wasn't as quick as I expected. He didn't get fully hard until he'd performed oral on me. Then I think he's got this idea that since I've already come, that it's his turn and there's no lovely long slow love making at that point. I mean, HIS thrusting will quickly almost bring me again, but he just doesn't hold out long enough. But all I was expecting was a quickie (how long are "quickies" by definition to the rest of you? I wonder if I am expecting to much or bring unreasonable) and so it was ok. I did tell him that I had been thinking about him all day and I couldn't go out w/the girls when I was so horney. Had to do SOMETHING with it. I'd rather think with contentment about our "nap" than be frustrated! He just grinned from ear to ear at that, so I know it pleased him that I'd been thinking about him.
I know I should be happy that I get the response I want. I haven't been turned down when I am blatant, but that's really not my style and I don't always like it. And I have yet to figure out how to comfortably bring up the topic and say "honey, can we have a long slow sex session that lasts an hour or two like we did when we were dating a year and a half ago?"