What's missing from the equation

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What's missing from the equation
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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 12:39pm

First, I just want to say that I primarily need to vent a bit of frustration.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 1:18pm
>>It would be nice if just once I could sleep in until 6:30 and get close to a full nights sleep. Oh well, as my Dad is fond of saying "I'll sleep when I'm dead".<<

I wondered about this when you first described your "sex on demand" policy and typical schedule. I worried that sooner or later you were going to be exhausted. Then resentful and crabby. I know this first hand. DH wakes me up at the azz-crack of dawn for sex, the blissfully slumbers while I get up and deal with stuff that has to get done. After a while that chit gets old. When I was doing school and the kids were home, I often slept between classes in the art gallery at the student union. How pitiful is THAT? But I was SO exhausted I HAD to do that. My grades suffered as well, because I should have been using that time to study. But what choice did I have? You can only run sleep deprived for so long.

I don't know what the solution is....but I feel your pain. How much more school do you have to go? Is the end in sight, or is it way off in the distance?
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Registered: 05-04-2007
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 2:27pm

Yuck, I don't do a 1/4 of that, lol

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 3:28pm
I agree with Miranda. If your H wants "sex on demand" to continue, he needs to step up his game. Sounds to me that he should be doing all the laundry. And he should make some meals on the weekends so all you have to do during the week is heat them up.

Also, how many classes are you taking? Perhaps you could cut back your course load so you aren't up late studying. I know, you have goals and time fames and want to get to the "finish line" on schedule. My prediction: whatever happiness you expect to feel when school is done will feel tiny compared to the pain you will feel if you being exhausted leads to you and your H going back to arguing over sex.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 3:53pm

Current equation...

Sex on demand - any qualifications = sleep deprivation

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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 5:42pm

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Thu, 02-17-2011 - 5:55pm

I am a biology major and I'm minoring in chemistry.

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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 11:01am
>>>>> i am a biology major and I'm minoring in chemistry. I am taking 15 hours this semester. I don't have any "fluff" classes this semester. <<<<<

Never accused you of taking fluff classes. Merely suggesting that if 15 hours leaves you stressed and exhausted, then take 10 hours next semester. Yes, it will take longer to graduate. Only you know if the stress reduction is worth the delay.

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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 11:47am
>>Never accused you of taking fluff classes. Merely suggesting that if 15 hours leaves you stressed and exhausted, then take 10 hours next semester. Yes, it will take longer to graduate. Only you know if the stress reduction is worth the delay. <<

I agree with this, Hold. From what I remember anything from 12 hours on is full time. So perhaps tiptoe can cut it downt to 12 next semester, even that 3 hours a week would make a big difference, because for me each hour of courseload per week meant about 4 hours of study time outside of class, so doing the math, it would free up about 15 hours per week, which is roughly 2 hours per day....that could make all the difference.

I also learned to take a fluff class every sememster that would not include a bunch of outside of class work....usually a theater class. It was amazing how much that one little theater class meant to me, both in terms of free time, and something I could enjoy each week. Of course tiptoe may find some other type of class more beneficial (art, music, theology, whatever...) But that class filled up my number of course hours to full time without creating a huge drain on my personal time. Also I took between one and three serious classes each summer so I wouldn't be "slowed down" too much by a weaker courseload during the traditional school year.
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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 1:07pm

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Registered: 02-19-2011
Sat, 02-19-2011 - 11:28pm

If I may offer my humble thoughts...lol

You're not superwoman, or superwife...or superMom.... You have a full plate and you need special attention and consideration given the fact you're trying to improve your families lot in life and making huge sacifices to do so. I have just

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