When I actually get sex

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Registered: 03-30-2003
When I actually get sex
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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 12:20am
Let me just say that my sex life frequency is far from regular. We are currently at six weeks and counting since we had any sort of sexual contact. This being bad enough, when we do have sex I don't think he is really enjoying it. He has only made any noise one time and it was after we had both been drinking. All the other times he is almost silent and has the same, unchanging, look plastered on his face. It's not a bad look, but not a great one either. He doesn't even change expressions, make noise, or tense up when he cums. I find this odd. Furthermore, he dosen't normally incorporate any foreplay into our "lovemaking." He has told me that he thinks oral sex is gross since he dosen't believe mouths belong in that area of the body. After all, we urinate from that area of the body. He hardy ever touches me with his hands either, just some kissing, maybe playing with my breasts a little, then intercourse. He is very loving, he cuddles me and he is interested in pleasing me, or he says he is. Oh, and I can only get one round at a time. When he's done, he's done, whether I am or not. Plus, he will not fool around with me. If he touches me sexually it is in preparation of sex. In fact, he will only french kiss me during sex. On top of all this, we don't "make love." We have sex. He cannot seem to express emotion during intercourse. Normally he does a fair job of expressing it but not during sex. He is usually playful, he laughs and jokes, and avoids the intensity of lovemaking. I find this all somewhat perplexing. Maybe he wants to avoid emotion. Maybe he dosen't like sex, he does avoid it a lot. Who knows?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 7:46am
Hey I am in the same situation and can relate. It does seem as if we only have sex when we drink and go away. Then it is only 1 time and who knows how long til the next time. I have been rejected so many times, it takes a toll. He won't touch either, french kissing turns me on so much and like you he will only do it w/sex. About 2 months ago he surprised me and started doing this for 2 weeks in a row. Then all of a sudden it stopped. Why who knows? French kissing doesnt have to lead to sex. I don't know about you but I am married and about to give an ultimatum if you read my post earlier. Good luck.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 5:03pm
About the vacation sex thing...it happens to us, too, and someone in the post above (I'd look it up,but I'm being lazy:)) said the same thing. What is it about vacation that makes it OK to have sex?? I don't get it. I've talked to my BF about it and he gives me non-answers...I'm sure you've all gotten them as well. Talk about expensive sex...LOL