Why your wife won't have sex with you

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Why your wife won't have sex with you
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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 10:24am

http://juliagrey.wordpress.com/introduction/

Have any of you seen this? Read it? I found it because I have been reading ALL of the Digger Jones (tomatoman) blogs. I know, I'm obsessive, you don't have to tell me that. I was just wondering if anyone had read it and what their take was, before I invest in reading it front to back (it looks rather lengthy, but what the hell)

roo and snowy siggie
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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 10:46am

Yes, I've read this - I'm obsessive too.



It was a bit of a curate's egg.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 10:50am

>>they've been compelled to perform like some circus animal.<<

Wow, that's how I feel about sex on demand! I hadn't really put that fine a point on it, but that's pretty much it.

roo and snowy siggie
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Registered: 12-10-2009
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 11:10am

Thing is, you can get external

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 12:53pm

I rather like sex on demand because DH doesn't require that I "perform like a circus animal". All he asks is that I give him my genuine sexual self and accept his giving his genuine sexual self.

If I had to simulate orgiastic pleasure every time then I might chafe over it.

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 1:54pm

I imagine that requires a fair level of trust

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 2:03pm
Yes, I trust that he will not abuse the situation. But just like sex itself, I have to trust that if I say "Stop-that hurts" he will stop. And if at any point he proves by behavior that he can't or will not take that care of me, then it's time to revisit the compromise.




Edited 9/27/2010 2:07 pm ET by tiptoeingaround