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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 9:44am

DH (who by some accounts is a miserable bastard at the best of times) is once again attempting to quit smoking. This, in addition to being on a liquid only/low sugar diet. Last night he ate so many sugar free candies (in an attempt not to smoke) that he was up all night with diarrhea. I've told him in the past not to eat too many of the sugar free candies, but he is still acting like it's all my fault this morning.

He's a snarky mess, and I didn't want him to attempt this right now anyway, so I am bitter about it.

Good, strong, positive thoughts are needed more now than ever. I need to not be bitter, it will only add to the problems.

edited to add: in addition to this I have begun a new diet which has me starving, and I'm going to be wanting comfort food I am sure. This is bound be to be a complete waste of time. I need to wait to diet until he's back to "normal" WTF was I thinking!?!?!




Edited 7/7/2010 10:02 am ET by mirandarr8
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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 10:21am
...don't starve yourself...do you like chips and salsa???...slice cucumbers a little thicker than usual...sprinkle with some cumin and a little bit of kosher salt and then dip in salsa...this is so good, I swear...and, after a bit, I've tricked myself into thinking it's just as good as chips and salsa...mix some greek yogurt with a dip mix and dip the cucumber slices in or celery sticks...don't starve yourself...
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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 10:28am

Ok sounds like you have your hands full. A couple of notes / ideas on quitting smoking. Have DH get the patch it worked for me. Quit smoking 20 years ago, I had a 2 pack a day habit. Nicotine is a drug you need to get weened off or you will suffer withdrawal symptoms. Hell I even had the shakes. That's why I went on the patch.
No sugar free candy! Sugar free gum is ok! I went through several packs a day for a while.

Now as far as dieting. Nothing helps dieting more than exercise. I can think of no better exercise than sex. I would start with once a day. Nothing complicated just get the heart rate going. Even if its just a quickie. One or two weeks of this will probably scare the hell out of dh. Give it a shot you will be surprised at what happens.

Good luck!

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 10:32am
...she MIGHT be surprised at what happens...as a matter of fact, at this point...with her husband's attitude coupled with his recent surgery along with the fact that he has stopped smoking and is on a liquid diet...I would imagine the last thing she might want to do that might help her feel better about everything would be to suggest sex to him everyday...(but, I don't know Miranda personally, so maybe...)...Miranda, I did want to say good luck...dirty does has a good idea concerning exercise...a stroll at lunch or in the evening might be good for you (I don't know your level of exercise at this point...that you regularly engage in)...home made vegetable soup is really good and filling as well...
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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 10:51am

Dirty,

As Z so concisely pointed out, now is not a good time for sex. DH has 6 incisions (all less than 2" long, but still) on his abdomen. He is also dealing with major shoulder pain from the carbon dioxide that they used to inflate his gastro-intestinal system for the surgery. To add insult to injury he is allergic to the adhesive system they use for the nicotine patch. He has tried to quit so many times, this is NOT our first time around this particular block.

I may (or may not depending on how nasty he is today) consider giving him a bj tonight. But it will ONLY happen if he isn't a total jerk to me, and given that he's not smoking, it's unlikely.

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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 10:56am

Thanks for the tips, Z, and I am not starving myself. I have these totally excellent meal replacement shakes, very high protein, and high nutrition and am taking 4 of them a day, plus a low calorie frozen meal for dinner. I think I'll be okay once I adjust, and I am only doing this for a week, then onto a more moderate eating plan.

I would love to get some exercise at lunch but it is so beastly hot here, I'd be soaking in sweat by the time I returned to work. I might do it anyways though....we'll see.

DH did have DS set the treadmill back up in it's home in the living room. I don't know how much of my time or attention DH will require when I get off work, if I don't manage to get a good walk at lunch, I might try to get it done this evening.

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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 12:14pm

Miranda, there are some excellent studies on muscle mass as it relates to significantly lower disease, injuries,

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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 12:24pm

My wife has lost over 60 pounds within the past 18 months.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 2:09pm

Well, one night was enough to make him change his mind. Apparently now is NOT the time to quit smoking (seems to me I have been telling him that, but whatever.)

He went out at lunch time and bought a pack. So this whole thread is moot.

Sorry for the false alarm, lol

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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 4:17pm
I'm glad he realized that now isn't the best time for him to attempt quitting.