Sad but True: Women Usually Have Sex Out of Obligation

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Sad but True: Women Usually Have Sex Out of Obligation
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Thu, 11-17-2011 - 10:23am

Maybe incorporating a little porn would help lessen the feeling of obligation?

Sad but True: Women Usually Have Sex Out of Obligation

How many times a week are you having sex? No matter what the number, I pretty much guarantee you it’s less than 77-year-old Peter Kranz of Darien, Conn. According to WebMD, Kranz and his wife (also 77) get frisky twice a day. Twice a day! Meanwhile, a new study reports the rest of us can’t even eek out twice a week....

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Registered: 04-16-2008

This is so sad.

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Registered: 04-21-2008

(note that she is 77 and probably retired)! ;-)

ROFL!!!

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Registered: 07-25-2004

Hi Cmtasha,

I posted on another topic about porn and sex and this topic fits in with what  was trying to say.  I'm lucky if I have sex with my wife once a month and it feels like obligation sex most of the time.  I want my wife to want to have sex with me and let loose while having it.  The gratification is very different when she is into it.  When she is not into sex but does it out of obligation, for me, jerking off to porn is better.  Less effort to reach orgasm.  I don't get the feeling I'm taking too long while she is thinking about cleaning the bathroom.  I still prefer sex with my wife when she is into it.     

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Registered: 08-11-2011
Tue, 09-18-2012 - 12:03pm

...and it feels like obligation sex most of the time.  I want my wife to want to have sex with me and let loose while having it.  The gratification is very different when she is into it.

I agree, IMO most women think that if they have sex then we'll be happy, they don't realize most men probably care more than that.

I think some men look at porn because they are missing passion in their relationship. 

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Registered: 07-25-2004

The passion has gone out of our marriage. Not because I lost interest, she wants sex to be spontaneous.  I tell her someone has to think of it first.  I feel like sex needs to be between 11 pm and 11:05 pm Saturday night when the moon is full, the kids are out of the house, the dog is in another room and the lights are off.  Unfortunately, she misses many opportunities to be intimate with me.  I find it very discouraging.