Too Much Internet Porn: The SADD Affect

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Mon, 12-20-2010 - 5:10pm

Too Much Internet Porn: The SADD Affect

As a sex therapist and founder of Good in Bed, I’ve seen a sharp increase in men who suffer from a new syndrome I’ve dubbed “Sexual Attention Deficit Disorder,” or SADD. And the source of this problem is just a click away -- too much internet porn.

Just as people with ADD are easily distracted, guys with SADD have become so accustomed to the high levels of visual novelty and stimulation that comes from internet porn that they’re unable to focus on real sex with a real woman. As a result, guys with SADD often find it difficult to maintain an erection during intercourse, or they experience delayed ejaculation and can only climax with manual or oral stimulation.

Bored in bed?

Men with SADD tend to find themselves getting bored or impatient during sex. They may be physiologically aroused and erect, but they’re not at peak mental arousal. Guys with SADD may also simply lack the mojo for real sex because they’re depleted from masturbation. They’re not running on a full tank, physically or mentally.

Believe it or not, I first became aware of SADD via the complaints of women who wondered why their guys couldn’t ejaculate (and were often faking it) or who noticed that their partners seemed disconnected or uninterested during sex. When I dug a little deeper, or talked to the guys themselves, I realized that these men were masturbating more than usual due to their easy access to internet porn. Sometimes, they were masturbating about the same as always, but hadn’t realized that their natural refractory period -- the recovery time between erections -- was increasing as they aged.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a big fan of masturbation. It helps a guy blow off some steam and is like a 30-second spa day. But easy access to internet porn and the sheer variety of novelty it contains have affected average guys who wouldn’t normally have a problem. Because of this, these men have rewired their brains to crave the instant gratification of a porn-enabled orgasm. This means that they’re developing what’s clinically referred to as an idiosyncratic masturbatory style: They’ve accustomed themselves to an intense type of physical stimulation that’s not approximated during real sex. Their overall levels of sexual desire for their partners are down, and they need to fantasize during real sex in order to maintain a full erection.

Ian Kerner, Ph.D, is a sexuality counselor and The New York Times best-selling author of numerous books for Harper Collins, including She Comes First. He is the founder of GoodInBed.com and most recently authored a guide to overcoming premature ejaculation.

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Thought this was a good article. And I think it's something that alot of guys don't like to admit to regarding their sexual pride. I suspect this happens alot mroe then we even know.



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Mon, 12-20-2010 - 5:33pm

Whatever sells the books

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 1:47pm

It's no big secret that men today do depend on porn like no other point in history. And I don't think it's far fetched to see an increase in issues and addiction with porn with the advent of the amount of porn that has increased to the public since the 80s-90s. There are many studies that indicate that kids are seeing porn younger and seeing more hardcore images. Many men today spend more time on porn then in past history. That's bound to change views on sexuality, gender roles and masturbation habits. Just because there is mroe porn out there and more people spending more time holed up infront of their computers masturbating, doesn't mean we are living in a healthy society. Quite the opposite.

it happens, everyone can become accustomed to a certain masturbation technique, and not just men & not just porn

women & vibrators, or just as simple as only getting there laying down or only while standing. The body is trained to respond to what you want it to respond to.

That's exactly the point of the article. The body and mind are trained to respond to what you want it to respond to. Since so many men today want their bodies and minds to respond to the novelty and

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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 2:52pm

( a clear diversionary tactic people use when they don't want to discuss the issue at hand is to say "it happens to everyone!" and try to close up any intellectual discussion on it instead of addressing the core group the article is presented to.)

Or I could stop responding, & you could talk to yourself. How about that.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 3:03pm

Just realized, I took myself away from my own topic ...

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 4:04pm
Or the fairly common standard of she comes first......So long foreplay, manual, oral, Vibe, Penetration......And He is the one with a problem if she has to do 1/2 the work he's expected to....after standing at attention 30-40 min He may need extra stimulation to get off.....he's been holding back for 20-37 min........but no it's now a problem to need some extra......wonderful gender equity on display. Can you say lazy lover?
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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 2:49pm

Or I could stop responding, & you could talk to yourself. How about that.

I wasn't diverting. I just don't see porn as The Devil. I can't agree that it's the worst thing in the world & poisoning today's youth. (That's religion's job, & they hate competition)

Everyone IS so different, I don't know how you can go on & on every time, that porn is ruining the world & no one can have an affective relationship that dares to include porn. That no one could actually like being called four letter names, etc etc.. I'm a lot more middle of the road about it.

Tulips, I never said no one could have affective relationshpis that included porn. I'm not that be all end all even if you want to insist that's the case. I have no doubt that there are people that like being called four letter names. But also think that porn glorifies the dehumanization of women and glorfies calling women stereotypically negative names. Four letter words in porn are not meant to lift women up, they aren't meant to be sexually pleasing to women first, they aren't meant to present women as equal human beings.

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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 4:19pm

It works both ways but you only want to defend the male side of it.

Yes.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 9:53am

ROFLMAO!!

Some one with these credentials"

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Sun, 12-26-2010 - 6:51pm

PEACHES: It works both ways but you only want to defend the male side of it.

TULIPS: Yes.

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Sun, 12-26-2010 - 6:53pm

I'm sorry you found the post offense Dirty. But it's not a huge leep to see how many sexual dysfunctions men have developed because of pornography. To ignore it or make light of it is to not be realistic about men's relationship with porn.

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