Women choose certain types of guys for casual sex.

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Women choose certain types of guys for casual sex.
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Fri, 06-17-2011 - 9:37am

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Fri, 06-17-2011 - 11:22am

Uck, Jezebel, let's not

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Fri, 06-17-2011 - 12:41pm
Just Odd to see that site accept something as truth that the rest of us knew all along.
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not odd at all. i've seen that trend up close. i was married for a year to a woman who had an attraction to the bad boy type and had fallen head over heels for one. but he wasn't marriage material. so she married me. i was a nice stable guy with a good job. the kind of guy a woman marries. we were married for a year and she left me not long after our son was born. she had began an affair with her bad boy ex-boyfriend a couple of weeks into our marriage and left me to go live with him just before our first anniversary. however i can't fault her. i married her for all the wrong reasons too. recently at our son's graduation she brought up reconciliation. she isn't happy with her life and is looking for something stable. we've been divorced since 1993 so i was suprised but also delighted to be able to say i wasn't interested because i'm involved with the girl i should have married in the first place.

your post was the topic of a very enlightening conversation between my gf and i this morning. she's been involved with alot of guys and she confirmed what you said. however she was always honest with both herself and the men she was with, which is why she is still on friendly terms with most of them.

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That bodes well for you....She's not the Princess type....She understands her motivations and accepts her part in the consequences. Nice dating an adult isn't it.
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That bodes well for you....She's not the Princess type....She understands her motivations and accepts her part in the consequences. Nice dating an adult isn't it.

nope not the princess type at all. well maybe more like xena warrior princess i guess. she'd be more like the girl in "Enchanted" who fought the dragon to save her guy lol. she was in a psychologically abusive marriage and her two oldest boys confided in me that things were bad and asked me to help her. well i've known her since she was 8 and i knew that i had to wait for her to ask for help. she never did. she saved herself. most women i've dated have wanted me to take care of all of their problems and that's alot of pressure. however my gf brings out my inner hopeless romantic and knight in shining armor and in general i've always believed in chivalry which i guess makes me an old-fashioned cheeseball. but i've gotta be me. fortunately i've always brought out her soft side so she lets me get away with being a romantic dork. :smileyhappy:

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At a couple points in my life a have sought out a fwb type situation. I did choose a specific type of guy for a reason. Not stable as far as finances or a place to live. Drinks too much. Not terribly bright. Legal problems or some kind of past with the penal system. Doesn't like children, or ill equipped to take care of a child for any length of time. This was not because I am more attracted to messed up guys. It's because I wanted some insurance that at no point would I want "more" from the relationship. I cared about them very much as friends, and stayed friends with them after the sex part was over. But I never felt the urge to try to turn it into a "real" relationship, and even if I had the reality of his situation would have brought me back down to earth fast.

For relationships I pick more stable guys. My boyfriend is stable, responsible, takes care of his mental and physical health, no issues past or present with substance abuse, intelligent, kind. I find him to be extremely sexy and exciting. Even more so than the guys who were just a fwb. That is because of his personality and sense of humor, not all those peripheral things.
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Yet same as guys do you had different categories....Relationship material was one and fun for now was another......All just variations on a theme.

It's interesting that all the studies point to the fact that looks matter less for both men and women when looking for a relationship then when looking for FWB/BC.

Few adults give the majority of points to looks, for a relationship.....other things are much more important than looks. Everyone's decision matrix on what they require for a relationship differs... Many women have height minimums, no momma's boys, needs to have broad shoulders, not prettier than her etc...not uglier than X...etc......guys to have minimums...
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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 11:45am

Yeah one day there will be a Bastille day for the nanny!!

chaika

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Mon, 06-27-2011 - 11:53am

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To me it's not like I feel one type of guy is more sexually attractive or exciting than the other though, as some have suggested. I find my long term boyfriend to be just as sexy and exciting, if not more so. I can't speak for all women, but that's me.

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