boyfriend and porn

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boyfriend and porn
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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 1:32pm

I need some advice.

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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 3:06pm

Do you think he would be as self conscious if you started watching porn with extremely well endowed men? I think you have a lot more to offer your BF than just breast and I think he recognizes that. Why then would he be with you. Would he have been incapable of landing a relationship with a woman that had large breast?

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 4:13pm

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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 5:36pm

Hi there,
to answer your ques. no he does not make me feel beautiful anymore. We have

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 4:35am

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:35pm

GlamGolfer,

I think you need to have a discussion with your boyfriend about how you are feeling and how the porn use and the lack of affection you feel you aren't receiving from him

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 2:03pm

Hi and welcome.

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 4:43pm

So I guess if he watches porn with elderly flat chested overweight woman its all good.

Dirty

Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Benjamin Franklin
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Fri, 11-19-2010 - 10:39am

lol good point. It runs deeper than that I believe.

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Mon, 11-22-2010 - 1:58pm

Well, I think you're right that it goes deeper than that... Honestly even if he stopped looking at a particular kind of porn, that wouldn't change the fact that you now know his "preference" (at least as far as porn goes, maybe not real women or girlfriends specifically). It wouldn't really help anything to curb the behavior when you know the desire is there.

Does he know how you feel? About the blatantly looking at other women?

My first instinct is that you're seeing signs of this relationship not being right for you. It hasn't been a terribly long time that you've been together and I think you're starting to see glimpses of the real him. Any man who's ever dated anyone before realizes it's rude to blatantly check out other women on a date (unless of course his date specifies that it's ok!). This is under normal circumstances.

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Tue, 11-23-2010 - 3:37pm

Dirty, how about something in thte middle? Not 18 year old girls with perfect bodies that women know they don't live up to in a man's perfect fantasy world (even though there isn't a woman alive who doesn't want to be her man's fantasy!) and not the

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