Men gang banging women ~ Discovered my H had homosexual relationships

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Men gang banging women ~ Discovered my H had homosexual relationships
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Sat, 02-16-2013 - 2:31pm

My husband and I are now separated. But during our marriage, he only wanted sex with porn and the porn he preferred was always multiple men having sex with one woman. I found it very demeaning. But in the last few weeks, I've discovered he had homosexual relationships with other men well into his late 30s (he is 64 now). One of the relationships went on for at least 6 years. (I am uncertain at this time if he is still engaging in homosexual relationships with other men.) I found love letters from 4 men to him, he had secretly saved in our attic. Truly, i am devasted right now, not really knowing who I have been married to.

I am now wondering if he enjoyed that kind of porn because, well how to say this, there were so many male penises in the video. . . 

What do you think?

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Registered: 08-09-2012

claricews wrote:
<p>My husband and I are now separated. But during our marriage, he only wanted sex with porn and the porn he preferred was always multiple men having sex with one woman. I found it very demeaning. But in the last few weeks, I've discovered he had homosexual relationships with other men well into his late 30s (he is 64 now). One of the relationships went on for at least 6 years. (I am uncertain at this time if he is still engaging in homosexual relationships with other men.) I found love letters from 4 men to him, he had secretly saved in our attic. Truly, i am devasted right now, not really knowing who I have been married to.</p><p>I am now wondering if he enjoyed that kind of porn because, well how to say this, there were so many male penises in the video. . . </p><p>What do you think?</p>

sounds plausible.  It could be that he has a fetish for that and instead of looking at gay porn, he looked at GB vids.

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Registered: 04-16-2008

That certainly sounds possible since you've found those letters indicating that he's had at least 4 homosexual relationships in the past wih one lasting at least 6 years. I hate to say this but it sounds like he's gay and may have married you as a cover up to hide it. I'm so sorry you had to find this out the way you did and I'd be devastated too had I found this out. You might consider getting some counseling. Under these circumstances I sure would. Good Luck

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Registered: 01-25-2010

 Actually it sounds like he is Bisexual.  That could come a a shock.  Perhaps, this is time to have a long talk.  And time to see to your own sexuality.  A talk with a sex therapist if possible might be advantageous.

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