Should I make my own?

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Should I make my own?
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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 3:48pm

My hubby likes to watch porn on occasion, so I was thinking of making my own to give him something to watch ;)  He says he gets turned on more by watching me versus another woman, but I always wonder if that's just an excuse he gives me so I won't get upset.  It also makes me nervous to have something recorded, not that I don't trust him but you just never can tell.  

Is this a good idea or not?   Guys, would you like your lady to make you some porn of your very own?  Would you find it a bigger turn on then watching a stranger?

 

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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 5:10pm

My thought is why would you have to make a movie when he can see you in person?  I would never be comfortable making any kind of sex tape because you never know what might happen to it.  Maybe the exception would be to make a video and then immediately delete it from your camera that night, but I don't know what good that would do.  I never understood why women get jealous that a guy is watching porn--it's a kind of fantasy thing.  The guy isn't expecting to actually meet any of those women and it doesn't mean that he's not interested in you.

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 4:34pm

If you really want to make one, don't have it with your face in it.  Assuming you don't have any identifying birthmarks or tattoos, there would be no connection to you.  

It can still be incredibly sexy for him, but anonymous for your protection.

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 5:02pm

boobsandbaubles wrote:
<p>My hubby likes to watch porn on occasion, so I was thinking of making my own to give him something to watch ;)  He says he gets turned on more by watching me versus another woman, but I always wonder if that's just an excuse he gives me so I won't get upset. 

Does your husband make a habit out of lying to you regularly to the point where this is the first conclusion you reach for when he pays you a compliment?  Why on earth would he not be turned on by his own wife, especially when he tells you this directly?  I'm quite sure, given the choice, he'd rather have you give him entre to your passion, which in turn would lead to deeper intimacy.

Stop looking a gift horse in the mouth. Start believing that your husband is turned on by you and start owning that.

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It also makes me nervous to have something recorded, not that I don't trust him but you just never can tell. 

that is understandable.  I would not put it on a cell phone. Were I to do this, I would use a camera with a card and store the video on the card and not on the camera and keep the card locked up and under your control.

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</p><p>Is this a good idea or not?  

depends on the strength of your marriage.  You can have a caveat that your face is never to be in the shot. 

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 5:49pm

 In today's world it is never a good idea to do anything on video/cam.  Unless you are in the business it can come back to haunt you.  There are to many ways that it can escape onto the internet.  People who think they are being careful make many errors.  Hiding you face is not foolproof as there are programs to uncover that.  Others forget to use a green/white solid color sheet to hide furnishings to can be recognized. Deleting what was on the computer is not enough.  What deletion does is change the first letter so it is no longer recognized but that can be undone thru available software;same for phones.  In fact, phones can be even more dangerous as some need only be touched by another phone to transmit data. 

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:27pm

musiclover12 wrote:

 I never understood why women get jealous that a guy is watching porn--it's a kind of fantasy thing. The guy isn't expecting to actually meet any of those women and it doesn't mean that he's not interested in you.

Where did she say she got jealous? She said she wasn't sure if he said she turned him on solely so it wouldn't make her mad---for doing something he presumes would make her mad. 

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 4:28pm

boobsandbaubles wrote:

My hubby likes to watch porn on occasion, so I was thinking of making my own to give him something to watch ;) He says he gets turned on more by watching me versus another woman, but I always wonder if that's just an excuse he gives me so I won't get upset. It also makes me nervous to have something recorded, not that I don't trust him but you just never can tell.

Is this a good idea or not? Guys, would you like your lady to make you some porn of your very own? Would you find it a bigger turn on then watching a stranger?

I wouldn't (though I have in the past) and that's just because of how it really can bite you in the butt. :/

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Sun, 08-11-2013 - 10:29pm

Sure you should . I thought most adults  with a video cam did that.  I set it up , wife wanted to see how it looked on cam doing it doggy style. she loved it and we did a few more. quite a kick .