Am I crazy???

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Registered: 09-06-2011
Am I crazy???
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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 7:45pm

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 2 years now.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 09-06-2011 - 9:28pm

I'm wondering if your boyfriend is cheating on you. His behavior doesn't add up to "loving faithful boyfriend". You're right, this is really cruel behavior. Telling you you're crazy is really crossing the line.

I don't have any criticism to give you. You haven't done anything wrong. Honestly, bdiz1978, the beginning of a relationship is ALWAYS wonderful. It's the times you are going through now that really differentiate a good relationship from a bad relationship.

You are not crazy at all. You're with someone who could really not care less about you. It's time to start making other living arrangements so you can break up and move on as soon as possible. This guy is downright toxic.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 09-06-2011 - 10:54pm
How far did he have to take that door that it took 3 HOURS??? And then his phone is turned off when you try to reach him. To tell you the truth it all sounds very suspicious to me. And when your justifiably upset over this he tells you your crazy. Your right, he doesn't care about your feelings anymore. You deserve much better than this. You deserve a man that will listen to you when your upset and care about your feelings. I'd bet he's seeing someone else. Men start to treat their SO like crap when they are seeing someone else. I'd dump him ASAP if I were you.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-06-2011 - 11:34pm

He does not honor his commitments on doing things with you.

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Registered: 05-14-2001
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 2:58am

Welcome to the board, Bdiz1978 ~

I would agree with what Crab said.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 09-06-2011
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 10:44am

I agree that he has the signs of cheating and even have tried to discuss it with him before.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 11:25am

Why can't you leave?

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Registered: 09-06-2011
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 12:16pm

I don't have enough income right now, I also have a daughter. So I don't really have a place where I can stay until I get back on my feet.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 1:17pm

I understand. If I can make a suggestion, I think it would be very wise to give yourself a serious timetable with real goals for yourself to exit this relationship. Figure out how much income you need to leave, and give yourself a goal date to reach that income. If you don't start to set real goals (not so much "limits" as "goals") for yourself, it will be hard to look at this situation objectively in terms of WHEN you can expect to be in a better place. That is, out of the relationship. If you're just looking at things in terms of "this is so hopeless and I'm not ready to leave yet" you will spiral downward and you may never really feel like giving yourself the push to leave. It's easy to feel trapped by yourself in this way.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 1:57am

The one time I stifled myself and I shouldn't have....

Your boyfriend's behavior doesn't sound like cheating to me, it instantly reminded me of my alcoholic/addict/abusive ex's behavior when he was drinking/using.


~ cl-2nd_life

cl-2nd_
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Registered: 09-06-2011
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 10:30pm

He is currently not using but he refuses to get help like counseling or some sort of help along with quitting.

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